To wash up after use, ect

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Dp things its unessasary. I mean I don't have a cup of tea then wash up straight away.
I tend to give everyone breakfast, tea ect, once done and DC are calm I wash it all up, same with after lunch and dinner. When dc are in bed we might have another cup of tea and light snack (crackers or toast) but that washing up I will leave until the morning when I wash up breakfast stuff.

Also, I have a routine where I do washing
Sat/sun - work clothes
Mon - light clothes
Wed - dark clothes
Fri - towels, oven gloves, ect and any soiled DC clothes and then bedding every 2 weeks.

He also thinks this is unreasonable. Aibu?

I can't see how cleaning something in an organised manner would be unreasonable.

I tend to do the washing up at the end of the day (but no children so less crockery).
Clothes washing sounds reasonable and organised.

Perhaps you should stop doing it and see how long before he complains about the mess/not having work clothes?

@Nesssie he once told me to not to do so much clothes washing so so I ended up just washing lights and towels/ bedding. He then couldn't find work clothes or his tracksuit bottoms or jeans (in dark wash)
I explained "you wanted me to wash less" his response was "wash important things that are needed" I simply said "I did all the vests, sleepsuits, PJs and tops for our DC" he just looked at me in estonishment!
Although he still thinks i do too much washing. Maybe because when I strip the beds they ho straight in the washing machine otherwise they take up too much h room in laundry basket!

Sounds perfectly fine to me! Nothing wrong with being organised. It's not like you have washing on every day so I don't see his issue - unless the washing machine is right next to his side of the bed and its running overnight!

I totally agree with you about bedding OP - two beds worth of bedding would more than fill my laundry basket!

As long as you don't impose your rules on others then of course you're not being unreasonable. I'm a do it all in one go kind of person and my DP is a clean as you go person. Both completely reasonable provided we don't dictate to each other.

Does he do anything around the house? If not it's frankly none of his business the lazy so and so, he should be grateful that you're taking care of it all.

"wash important things that are needed" I simply said "I did all the vests, sleepsuits, PJs and tops for our DC" he just looked at me in astonishment!

He meant wash just his things because he is the big and important man, he didn't expect you to wash the unimportant DCs things.

Just tell him to wash his own things, then you will have less washing to do, because he is doing it.

I always do washing up but saying that I rarely do the hoovering - he does that!

I rarely do the hoovering - he does that!

Perhaps insist that he uses the hose instead of wasting time on hovering back and forth. Tell him that you only see the need to hoover "as needed" so he should be identifying spots where there are crumbs and hoovering those only.

hoovering not hovering! Hovering back and forth would also be a waste of time

I think I would show him how to use the washing machine so he can organise his own laundry

Does he object to you washing crockery and pans etc. after each meal? I’ll tell you why that is. He is worried that he might be required to do the same, instead of doing important man stuff.

Vacuuming, it's vacuuming glad I got that out

I shove everything in the dishwasher because I'm lazy and hate washing up. But when it's either not been plumbed in due to moving house or the time it broke down, then it was all piled up to do at once.

What does he want you to do - let it all pile up until the end of the day so that the kitchen looks untidy, and it's a much bigger job?

Why is that preferable?

Tell him that when he does the job, he gets to decide. What's it to him?!

We have 7 children. We do at least 4 full loads of washing per day and a fresh sink of washing up mostly once per hour.

I've forgotten a time when life was any different.

If I don't do the washing up it won't get done! Also I am being told u do these things alit so I don't have to spend time with DC.
I'm a sahm so I'm with them all the time, I even shower with them. Maybe I watch an hour or two of TV max whilst they play independently. But if they call me, need me r want sonethibg im right there!