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Family holiday and rooms

34 replies

Beautifulsunshine · 12/12/2018 18:58

We are tying to book a big family holiday in the south of France, where you can hire a chateaux so we can all stay in one place. Would you charge on a per person basis or per room? We are the only ones with children so there will be 3 of us in 1 room. If we split per person it’s about £350 per adult. There are a few single people (that won’t share with the other singles) and a married couple that don’t want to share as they snore.

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TidyDancer · 12/12/2018 18:59

Generally we split per room. DP's family are quite big so this comes up periodically for us as well.

Knittedfairies · 12/12/2018 19:10

Per room for accommodation and per person for food, depending on the age/appetite of the children.

Hohocabbage · 12/12/2018 19:13

So one couple pay the same as you and get two rooms?

cuppycakey · 12/12/2018 19:18

Per room definitely.

PotteringAlong · 12/12/2018 19:19

Per room.

PurpleDaisies · 12/12/2018 19:20

Per room.

TheHobbitMum · 12/12/2018 19:22

Per room

poppyseed2 · 12/12/2018 19:22

Per room. Any food / drink bills should be split by person, with the child counting as half an adult if they're still kids menu age.

carrie74 · 12/12/2018 19:23

In these circumstances, per room seems to make the most sense. We do a lot of group holidays and have tended to split costs equally, but that's tended to be a more balanced group. When doing family holidays (my parents, my brother and our families), we've split 3 ways which has meant parents paying more than us, but they were clear that they were happy to do that.

Workreturner · 12/12/2018 19:23

Per adult

budgiegirl · 12/12/2018 19:25

Per room if you’ve hired a chateaux with the exact number of rooms needed, as presumably you could have got a cheaper one if people would share rooms.

However , if there are lots of rooms, meaning you could all have your own rooms if you chose to, then it would be fairer to split per person (although I probably wouldn’t count the child)

Food split per person ( perhaps half costs for child?))

Sirzy · 12/12/2018 19:26

Is the food price being split in with the accommodation or separately?

Euamoonatal · 12/12/2018 19:27

The accommodation works out it's price per room so you should do the same

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Beautifulsunshine · 12/12/2018 23:11

See now I would say per room but I was told this wasn’t fair. We are renting the whole place and there would be a few spare rooms if no one shared (I would love my own room but that’s not going to happen 🤣) They have all agreed that food is split per person. The child is only a toddler so doesn’t really eat much.

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trojanpony · 13/12/2018 07:14

Per room.
I think they are being a bit cheeky,
Either find a cheaper place with less rooms or don’t go.

I’d also be a bit Hmm about the food I’d consider sorting yourselves out separately

MrsEricBana · 13/12/2018 07:20

Ah so if the not sharing thing is not requiring extra rooms to be booked and paid to then you should just be splitting cost of whole chateau and its facilities between the adults imo.

TwoBlueFish · 13/12/2018 07:55

Per adult if you’ve got extra spare rooms.

poppyseed2 · 13/12/2018 12:12

If there are so many spare rooms, how come your toddler doesn't get their own room? Or is that your choice?

Are you going to an area where you could easily downsize if less rooms were needed?

OliviaStabler · 13/12/2018 12:17

Per person. Why should a single person pay the same as a couple.

Hillarious · 13/12/2018 12:18

Per adult. If you're in a French chateau, the rooms will be big, so space won't be a problem, and I'm guessing that on the allocation of rooms, you'll get a larger one anyway - and you could certainly argue for that to be the case. I'm assuming you're happy to be sharing with your partner?

blackteasplease · 13/12/2018 12:19

Per room

ChoudeBruxelles · 13/12/2018 12:20

I’d say per adult.

mindutopia · 13/12/2018 12:28

In that scenario, I would split by room. Normally, with children, you would take up more rooms as the dc would have their own room unless they are little. But it sounds like you'll all be sleeping in one room. In which case, you shouldn't be paying 4x what a single person would pay. And couple who can't be bothered to use some ear plugs and instead demand separate rooms definitely shouldn't get away with everyone else shouldering the burden of their preferences.

Pachyderm1 · 13/12/2018 12:37

Per room isn’t totally fair because you aren’t using any less of the shared spaces iyswim. You might only be using one bedroom, but you’re still three people in the pool / living room / dining room etc. I would try and figure out a halfway house. So you pay a little more if there’s lots of you in one bedroom, but not as much as a per person rate would be.

ExplodedPeach · 13/12/2018 12:40

TBH I would just split all costs evenly between the adults and accept that that means some people will have nicer bedrooms, some will have a private room, you will have your child's food subsidised.

Unless there are enormous inequalities in what people use, I don't think group holidays work if you try and divvy everything up to be perfectly fair.

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