Arse,
NC for this, living with a bully of a man atm and I know he won't change. Currently trying to get my ducks in a row and kick him to the curb.
Tonight just completely pissed me off. I work part time and study full time. Weds is literally my only day off (looking after DS2)
He works full time and a standard office job (he has no intention of trying to better himself) that's in no way trying to put anyone down that works in that sector. He just relies heavily on me to sort childcare and raise our income. He finishes every day at 2, starting at 6.
Today I've gotten worse with my chest, temp ECT so took myself to doctors. They gave me antibiotics and told me under no circumstance I should go to work. I've had heart surgery 2 years ago and haven't taken time off sick since. But I work in theatres so can't spread infection. I was so reluctant to ring in and felt guilty. But the doctor gave me a sick note and told me to rest.
Fast forward, I've done nothing all day because I feel like I've been hit by a bus. I also have depression and I'm on sertraline.
This has made it worse. I dragged myself to school to get the kids with pushchair and hills. Got home and collapsed on the couch.
He came in huffing and puffing and carrying on about what is he supposed to do about tea (he rarely cooks) there is a fridge full of good food. I can't bring myself to cook. He then started cooking. Half way through he started saying right well chips have cooked quicker than sausages, so that's tea ruined.
I said calmly "you've only been expected to do tea and you can't help but throw tantrums, what is wrong with you?"
He proceeded to tell me not to expect sympathy off him when I'm ill because when he is Ill, he is expected to just get on with it.
He isn't! If he is really ill, I do everything. I give seldom sympathy because he is a bully and makes us miserable. He has been off 4 month out of 12 for different excuses and illnesses. Once because the youngest kept him awake and he was too tired to focus. This is why he gets no sympathy. I'm shocked he hasn't been sacked yet.
AIBU to expect him to cook for his family something decent without moaning?
Also when he is I'll, because childcare is already sorted I am either home or he doesn't have the kids so he can rest.
So fed up.