To not like anyone anymore?

[LeilaDarling]

Maybe it’s because I’m now a 40something...... is it me or do any of you feel like you have become more cynical, have eradicated some CF friends and are just seeing some individuals for their real true colours???
I have always been an outgoing person with a wide circle of friends.
This year, however, other than perhaps my sister and one v close friend I feel irritated with various friends - one is work shy, one a drama llama, one permanently melancholy, one manic and unstable, one as draining as a plug hole ..... these people have always been this way yet all of a sudden I have next to no tolerance for them. I feel irritated and want to avoid their calls. I like my own company more than usual and like the solace and tranquility of time alone. I was delighted when the O2 phone network was down as no-one could contact me.
AIBU or can anyone else relate?

I think it’s natural to lose your tolerance for poor behaviour as you get older. We’re all busier, time is more precious - quality of friends becomes more important than quantity.

I can relate completely. I have 2 friends, both of them I've met through work.

Someone who I've known for just 5 years is pissing me right off at the minute. She's clueless, yet right about everything. The type of person that without evidence, she will not be put wrong. and I'm now at the point that I don't want to keep the peace any more and will start being more upfront.

She always interrupts conversations as well, even if it's a conversation between two people. She listens in and then jumps in mid conversation.

She's a nice enough person, but I can't really tolerate to spend an evening of my time with her anymore.

Find your own blind spot before finding everyone else's. It helps balance things out and makes one less hard on others.
I have been through this (51) and started to get so pissed off with everyone till I asked myself if it could really be true that everyone else was shit and I had no downsides whatsoever.
I wondered if I got on other people's hits and wasn't it better to try and see past the grating aspects of my friends and remember their better qualities.

Thank you both for your replies!
Feeing a little less like I need a check up with GP - I have one friend that rings me early morning with her woes when it’s a madhouse getting kids ready. She has the audacity to say I sound stressed and gets annoyed if I don’t give her my full attention. Sometimes I just want to scream!!
I would happily listen to those with genuine problems that need a good ear or comfort mind you.
Feel like I’m going to show my wrath and anger to someone one day soon.

I stopped being outgoing...and with that came a realisation that some of the people who were fun on a night out actually lacked in other ways

for example, one lives about 2 hours away and would either invite herself to stay the night or ask me to do really out of the way favours

it sounds mad, but until I stopped enjoying nights out, I just thought, oh well, she's got her good points. But they didn't outweigh the bad and it took me time to realise that.

I only felt that way about 3 people though. And the example you give - people expecting full attention when you are mad busy - tbh I just wouldn't answer the phone at that time. So there's a balance, I guess.