To think dp is taking the piss?

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I’ve been with my dp for nearly a year, his birthday was two weeks ago and he asked me for a £40 shirt, I bought him it. He then took it from my house (we don’t live together) without telling me so he could wear it on a night out which I was pissed off about, he was supposed to spend the night of his birthday with me, he never showed up and went out and got drunk instead.

Fast forward to now, it’s my birthday this Thursday, he was supposed to spend the night with me. We got into a bit of a disagreement on Sunday and he throws in my face that he’s going away to London the day before my birthday and won’t be back for ten days, he never told me he was going before that, didn’t mention it at all. During the argument I told him to just take my present back and not bother, he proceeds to go on that he can’t take it back and he’ll have lost £50 if I don’t take it.

I’ve hardly spoken to him since he told me he was going away, so last night he dropped my birthday present off, didn’t bother to wrap it or anything, tied up in the bag it was delivered in, price tag still on £25 reduced to £15. He’s not skint, has a job and lives at home, pays no bills. I wasn’t expecting the world, I know it’s not about the money but for him to say one things and do another yet again is just like the straw that snapped the camels back after everything else the last couple of weeks.

He thinks it’s okay to ditch me on his birthday because, well, it’s his birthday! He tried to pass the going away off as he has to work away, he doesn’t, he gets the choice to work away now and then if he wishes and hadn’t bothered to up until now after promising to spend the night with me.

AIBU to be totally pissed off about the whole thing?

Do yourself a favour.

Oh he’s a charmless cunt. Get shot of him please.

‘PickledChutney

Are you both children as your post makes you sound like school kids?? This surely can’t be a relationship of adults? If it is you need to call it a day and both grow up and start behaving like adults rather than teenagers.’

Absolutely this.

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” - Maya Angelou

He’s shown you who he is.

Jesus. You need to break up and you need to break up fast fast. It's a good thing you don't live together as you won't have to worry about where you're going to go or if you're going to have to move. But seriously, get rid.

If this turns into a long running thread you will find not one person (well, maybe one or two dickheads) that won't tell you to leave him. Because you should.

Agree with Fridaydreamer, this may be the first time he's done something like this, but if he's done it once he'll have no hesitation in doing it again. What he's done has shown you who he really is - so take note and dump his sorry arse. Who cares if he 'doesn't want you to do that', he's not the boss of you.

OP you've said in an update that you've been in an abusive relationship before and don't know what a normal one looks like. Please listen to those of us who do, this isn't a good relationship so get out before he does you any more damage.

at this point I'm not even sure I know what to expect from a relationship anymore.

Putting love and the sexual side of things to one side, you're supposed to be friends - care about and respect each other, want to spend time together.

You're supposed to actually like each other.

To me, this is the absolute bottom line essential. If you don't like each other, love means nothing.