This is a more WWYD as opposed to AIBU - I'm sorry. I have nc'd for this as DH knows my MN name and I don't want him to know about this, yet.
I'll try to keep this as short as I can:
Whilst I was growing up, DM worked for a large airline that meant she was away for 2 weeks, home for 2 weeks. DF was a high-functioning alcoholic but managed to hide this well.
Whilst she was working away, DF would invite prostitutes to our home. DSis and I were completely away of the "other ladies" but truly believed if we told DM that we'd never see our DF again, so neither of us said a word.
When I was 11, DM and I were in town shopping when we bumped into one of DF's "regulars".... I'll call her Jenny. I said hi. DM asked who this was and I said "DF's friend."
Later that evening, Jenny knocked on the door - with a baby in her arms - and told DM that this was her DS with my DF. She had believed that DM had abandoned us and that DF was a single father.
A few months later, DM heard that DF had been playing happy families with Jenny and his new DS - I don't think this lasted very long.
DF passed away 7 and a half years later. I'm not sure that he had a relationship with his DS. He had no relationship with my DSis or I - we saw him twice between leaving and his death.
Fast forward to now, 14 years on.
I've managed to find my half brother on Facebook, as well as Jenny.
I'm torn between wanting to contact my half-brother and the desire to let sleeping dogs lie. I have this burning curiosity to find out more about him, he would be around 15 now, but terrified that he will want nothing to do with us. I don't know if he even knows about us, or that DF has passed away.
I dread to think how DM would feel - this would reopen old, awfully painful wounds for her. I've considered not telling her - or DSis but I would hate to betray DM again, I feel like I've already done that once.
This is something I've been mulling over for over a month now. I'm so torn.
WWYD?