To ask if I should apologise to his girlfriend?

[cheesesarnie1]

Ex and I split 18 months ago, while he was dating this girl we were still living together, but he finally moved out couple months ago. I've yet to meet her, but we had an argument while we were living together where he mocked my depression , and said I'm not doing anything with my life, I have no friends etc anything he could say to make me feel worthless. So I texted him " while you're out wining and dining your girlfriend, I'm here looking after your children.." he's now showed this text to her, and I now feel like an idiot, I'm scared she's gonna think I'm jealous and I really shouldn't have dragged her name into the argument, but the only reason why I texted him that was to show him, the only reason why he gets to out with his girlfriend every night is because I'm at home looking after the children.

So would you apologise when if you meet her or forget about it?

Just forget it.

He’s not worth the mental energy.

Nah I wouldn't. You've not really said anything rude about her and it sounds like he was really nasty to you.

Don’t apologise what you said is true.

If he showed her the message then he’s an idiot! It certainly wouldn’t paint him in a good light and more than likely will make the GF start to question how much does he actually do for his DC and whether there is any truth to what your saying.

*you’re saying

No. If that's literally what you said; it's true and not offensive to her, so leave it.

Cut contact to a minimum required for the children; too; give yourself time and space to get over him

It wasn't directed at her nor did it say anything nasty about her so why would you owe her an apology?

I wouldn’t apologise, assuming that’s all you wrote about her and didn’t call her names etc. It’s true! He WAS out wining and dining, and he can ONLY do that because you’re with the kids. It doesn’t even matter who he’s with, frankly. Can’t apologise for facts.

Forget about it. He is mentally abusing you. Don't waste your energy or time on him, he is not worth it.

Apologise for what exactly? It was a private conversation between you and him, and you spoke the truth, you have nothing to apologise to her for.

Don't apologise. What you said was correct and was not in any way rude about the girlfriend. She must realise that he has children and his social life is enabled by you doing all the childcare.

If that was all you said, why apologize? It's the truth. Don't make yourself into a doormat. Just be polite when you see her.

No, why? It's the truth and it's not a dig at her, it's a (justified) dig at him

while you're out wining and dining your girlfriend, I'm here looking after your children..

Why would you apologise for telling the absolute truth? Get thee to court for maintenance.

If you'd said "while you're out wining and dining your $%#&* girlfriend" then that would have been rude. But all you did was point out that he has all this free time because you facilitate that. No apology needed.

Why did he tell you he showed your text to his girlfriend?

Why did he tell you he showed her that text? He sounds like a cunt btw, mocking depression and trying to create some sort of a "thing" between you and his g/f. Glad you got away from him by the sounds of it. If I were you limiting direct contact with him would be your best option

It wasn't directed at her nor did it say anything nasty about her so why would you owe her an apology?

Just don't engage. He sounds like a dick. Good for you for getting away, I bet life is an awful lot more pleasant without him in it (as much as possible!). Good luck to her, he's her problem now.

what the hell. You didnt say anything that wasnt true.
Hes able to be a big single man, while someone else brings up his children. He can go fuck himself

I don't think you were rude. It wasn't a slight at her, it was a comment on his lack of support for his kids. Hopefully she reads it and sees what kind of support she can expect from him if she has kids with him in the future.

Thank you all. I basically said to him " this is why I can't be with you, you're so quick to fly off the handle I can't speak to you about anything, and I'm sick of the abuse. I'm not doing anything with my life? I'm at home looking after your children whilst you're out wining and dining with your girlfriend". No name calling or anything, that all I wrote.

But you're right, I shouldn't bring it up and just be nice when I meet her.

you dont have to be anything to her

Hve a bit of self respect woman"!

That text sounds perfectly reason, if anything he should be embarrassed showing that to anyone let alone a new g/f.....glimpse into the future for her maybe?

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