Having a moment of madness

[Aroundtheworldandback]

Just need to be told I’m being unreasonable I guess. Dh’s work can include business lunches (self employed). He was just showing me something on his phone when a lunch flashed up with an attractive single girl in the same line of business.

We have our issues, second marriage, but are committed and he’s never cheated on a woman. He’s highly sociable and loves people. I guess I’m insecure because this one’s always trying to pin him down for lunch and I’ve heard she’s very predatory!

Am I being silly even thinking about it?

Have you any reason to distrust him?

I think it's not unreasonable to feel a bit insecure if there's a woman around you perceive to be attractive etc. But if he's not given you reason to distrust him then try not to conflate that anxious/insecure/jealous feeling with actual worry that he's doing anything wrong.

Does that make sense? There's a couple of woman in my DHs life that make me feel insecure because I see them as beautiful, talented women that I don't compare to... but my DH is trustworthy so unless he gives me a reason to think that's changed I need to recognise it's my issue.

Jenala that makes perfect sense. No he has given me no reason to distrust him. Deep down I know he wouldn’t. But I so get what you mean about feeling insecure about the beautiful talented women! He comes across a lot of these.. he’s a family man with integrity. My ex cheated for years so that’s probably where this unbidden feeling came from- but he’s nothing like him. I’ll forget about it.

It's hard to forget about though I just try and give myself permission to have those feelings rather than waste time and energy wishing I felt differently. Somehow takes the sting out of them a bit a bit too!

I know myself- I’ll forget about it till the day, then spend the day seething

Can you talk to him about it?

I have- she just said “She’s a sweetie, wants to see me about a certain project”. Oh well, I’ve got it under control I guess!!