To send DH to parent's evening on his own?

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It's for DS2, year 11.

I find the whole thing soul destroying. Despite my best efforts both my DCs do "Ok" at school and make just enough effort to stay out of trouble (ie not to get detention)

The school "allows" this in that there are no sanctions or contact home about lack of effort. However, once a year, everything at parent's evening is always so negative and they have no positive suggestions about what I'm supposed to do about it. It's just a load of moaning and makes me feel a rubbish parent when actually I know I'm raising decent young men who contribute weĺ to society but just aren't very interested in school work or sport. I went through tbis right through DS1's schooling too and he emded up with 11 passes, at B and C. No doubt he could have done better but he didn't disgrace himself.

So, as there's never anything useful.to be gained from going, but I feel like appearances should be maintained, I've sent DH on his own because he takes it less personally.

As DS2 doesn't plan to stay on, this will be the last one. Hooray!

Of course its fine if only one parent goes

Yes, it's not really about only one parent going though, It's about me avoiding it.

Once our DC got to this stage (also non tryer’s!) neither of us went to be honest. My DC were both like this, now in their mid twenties one is a jet setting computer type bloke. The other is a forest school teacher, so no worries, they will all do ok if they want to.(Eventually)

I always go on my own, so I can't see any reason you both need to attend.

The school sounds dreadful though.

I always go, with the DSs

it's a good chance to ask questions and get to know the teachers, though I have on previous occasions felt dreadful..... the first time i had a teacher say something positive about DS I cried

still think it's good to go....but my DH sees no need for both of us to go

What does DS think? I think Y11 parents' evening is important - if both parents can't go, that's one thing, if one parent chooses not to go that's another - I think my DC would be quite hurt if we'd chosen not to go.

It's fine. They'll just think you couldn't make it. Your dh can let you all know what was said

I always go on my own, I don't get at all why two parents would waste their time. Yanbu.
Don't go, don't feel guilty.

Kind of it's fine but the word send makes me barf.

Both parents going is unnecessary and doesn't add any value - what's the point? Unless you're unable to communicate with one another.