to be fed up of taking it in turns visiting/ strictly by appointment from DM

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my DM (74) is getting increasingly cranky as she gets older, never asks about anyone else , her life is more important than anyone else's, even grandkids illnesses etc aren't mentioned when she has something going on...and I work from home long hours, 2 kids, etc etc...she's always off out here and there shopping etc and i've said to her many times just call in when passing but she won't it's always by appointment and it's always well i came to yours last week its your turn this week... if i don't take my turn so to speak we don't see her...i'm sick of it..we only live 5 minutes away . AIBU to tell her this or do i just suck it up cos of her age

Nowt to do with her age. If you can't make it, then don't. She's the one missing out, not you.

Are you saying that you think she should come to you more often than you go to hers because she has more free time?

She’s not U to want to prearrange visiting you, or being visited. You WNBU to decline invitations to hers if inconvenient or reduce the frequency of invitations to yours.

I agree Unknown. She's still acting as if you are a child who has to do as your told. You're not and you don't! Her loss by the sound of it.

She's probably been reading MN and is now afraid to "pop in" as normal family do

@BackforGood lol , my dad (they're divorced ) pops in all the time just for a quick coffee and I love it , no appointment required