People who say hello to you a few times at school, then blank you for no reason.

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Just that really. Has anyone experienced this and how do you deal with it? It's so awkward.

No idea. Happens all the time at our school. I sometimes think maybe they are dealing with stuff you don’t know about so be kind. Other times I think...how rude!

Some people never mature beyond Y6. Ignore them and move on.

Yes I have come across a few weird critters at the school gates. There is 1 I chat with otherwise a quick smile to the others and I stand alone. If I get blanked purposely a few times within the cool mam gang, I don't bother with them again.
One mum I knew years, she is very moody she always done it, I completely stopped any contact with her for a good year, she came to me one day to chat and since then goes out of her way to say hello.
Ignore it, start as you mean to go on a quick smile, wave and stand alone.

It could be any number of things but there’s no way to know. Best just to continue being friendly and if someone has an issue that’s on them, not you.

Even at my worst I can still manage to say a quick hello, or at least acknowledge the person. It's so awkward when you get ignored like that by the very same person who said hello to you yesterday. You don't even know what where to look, or do. I take stuff like that to heart, which is my problem and something I need to work on.

Maybe they’re shy? Or in a day dream? Or preoccupied with something?

Who knows, but don’t let it upset you

I do this though, some mornings I say hi, others I don’t, I say hi to one lady every morning though, that’s because we cross paths at the garages and it’s quite and no one else about, at the school gate things go a thousand miles a hour for me and I miss people, don’t see them, to many hi’s going around to know if any are for me, plus it’s a slim path with a keep moving style, nothing worse when someone stops then you all have to stop!

Don’t take it to heart, sometimes people’s thoughts are loud and they don’t hear anything else around them.

I have real problems recognising people. So if you are wearing a different coat, I just won't realise it is you.
My mum does it as her eyesight is poor.

Don’t take it personally. I think I might do this. I am generally very polite and friendly, but I worry a lot and ‘live in my head’. I probably sometimes just don’t notice people who aren’t trying to get my attention. I’m often turning over a problem over in my mind to do with the kids or work and rushing between things.

It’s almost certainly NOT about you.

Same as previous poster, I have a problem recognising people. I do say hi when I am sure I know the person. My ds is autistic and has this problem too. It runs in my family.

I could be accused of this. I leave a high pressured job at 3pm to pick my children up. I often leave in a flap and with things half done. Depending on how my day as gone I could be the outgoing friendly mum saying high to everyone or like a rabbit in headlights with sheer panic about what work I have left behind. It is not intentional, I just have a lot going on some days.

Oh aren't I glad the school rum says are a thing of the past.
I remember these two mother's in particular used to wait for each other at the school gate to walk into the play ground. Like two little 13 year olds. You stand with In 20 feet of them and they'd just go silent.
Being clique and exclusive in a women's trait. The dads were never like that.

*Hi not high, obviously!

They were thinking about something else, they were in a rush, they didn't hear you, they hadn't put their contact lenses in that morning, they are face blind like abacucat (surprisingly common),

Lots of possible reasons, and I'm always a bit flabbergasted when people go into depth trying to analyse being ignored. When people want to deliberately ignore you, they usually manage to make it MUCH more obvious.

Yes I've noticed this. I think some people are mostly rushing. On the occasion they aren't they might speak to you.

Maybe think that 1) the world doesn’t revolve around you and they’re preoccupied 2) you’re over involved in school life if you give a damn what happens at the school gates. This is why I’m thankful I work full time and don’t have to deal with this nonsense

I often do the School run post night shift. I'm sleep deprived, focused on doing the drop and getting home to bed. I often walk straight past people I've known for years. Fortunately they know me

I'm really bad for walking past people when I'm thinking about something else, I usually realise a few steps later and then feel awkward about turning back, unless its someone I really want to talk to/know well enough to joke about it with. Wait and see if they do it again before taking it personally.

Oh god I think I do this! I very rarely do drop of or pick ups and so I don’t know other parents very well. When I do see them I usually say hello but sometimes the moment seems to pass or they are talking, looking at their child or something and I start to then stop and stoically look the other way so end up looking really rude! I am not usually so socially awkward I have no idea why it happens

I regularly say Hi to a neighbour in our street who is walking her little dog. Every time she looks at me as if she has never seen me before. It's a game I enjoy playing with her now!

It's a thing. There's woman whose children go to the same activity as my DC. We spine twice briefly at the activity and even once she stopped us on the school run to say how DC and I look alike. Whenever I see her and look her way she looks dead straight 🤷🏼‍♀️

I could be that person doing the ignoring some days I literally have no time and am concentrating on getting the kids in and making the train on time. Other days I have more time and stop to chat. I really wouldn't over think it.

I've often passed people in a rush and only realised after that I never said hello or anything then felt terrible. School runs are always the most stressful time of the day try not to take it to heart.

Oh no I think this might be me. Sometimes I notice people too late or I just feel too knackered for human interaction. After I’ve ‘ignored’ someone once I tend to then feel really anxious about saying hi to them again and it can spiral from there.

It’s never about the actual person.

I’m sure I do this. I have poor mental health and getting out the door and to the school gates has taken all my efforts in my darkest days in the past. I just wanted to shuffle into a corner and wait for ds to come out and go home as quickly as possible