Is this fair split of xmas presents?

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DH and I have bought FIL and his partner (of many years if that's relevant) their xmas presents for this year - £40 each on the same item different colours.

I was doing an online order for other presents. There was a spend £x to get free delivery. As I was close to the limit I added a book that DH or FIL would like to read. So the book was only an extra £5.

Now it's arrived, DH wants to give it to FIL. I said we should add a small something to his partner's present as well then in case she feels like it's a bit of a snub that FIL gets 2 and she gets one? DH said he didn't see why we should, he loves his father more. I was a bit (because I actually like his partner more and she's shown much more interested in our DS than FIL has ever bothered to).
I suggested a box of chocolates for the partner. DH insists FIL should get more stuff, but I'm not sure. She's so lovely and I don't want her to think in any way that we don't consider her part of the family.

So my question is this: if you were the partner and got 1 thing compared to FIL's 2, would you feel a bit .

Would a grown person actually care about someone else getting one more small present than them? I'm 31 and I honestly wouldn't give a shit.

Maybe just give FIL the book, say it's not really a Christmas present, you just thought he'd like it? Either way I doubt it matters: buy her something extra, or don't … if the gifts are clearly of a similar amount I don't think it matters at all. The only issue is when things are so obviously differing in value. DH and I have birthdays close-ish: one year his DM bought him a shirt from Next and gave him £100 in a card. I got a reed diffuser with a 'sale £6.99' sticker on the bottom.

I think you are 100% right. Unlikely to cause offense but buy a small gift so it's even.

Do they buy you and dh equal value gifts? Doesn't really matter but wohld be a good point to dh if they do.

Also if you always buy the same to add fil a little something one year may be perceived as a dig.

Would a grown person actually care about someone else getting one more small present than them? I'm 31 and I honestly wouldn't give a shit.

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Oh I absolutely would add a box of chocs or bottle.of wine.

I dont worry about everything being equal to the penny but when the main gifts are the same it would be obvious that he has more and for the sake of £5 I'd even it up.

If fil is a decent bloke (and if he notices at all) he wouldn't want to think his son had favoured him over his partner.

We have a similar family set up, and yes, I would get the partner something else as well. He might love his dad more, but you and your dc have known the partner and the dad the same length of time.