That exP said this to me.

[Amazona24]

AIBU that my ex and DS dad said this to me? I had painted my nails earlier in the day as I had my work Xmas due. DS who is 2 and a half saw me doing this and asked if he could have some on a few nails. I thought what's the harm he's a toddler. When ex came to pick him up he spotted the nail varnish and said to me "I don't like it, he's a boy! Why have you done that? Can you not do that in future as I'm now going to have to scrap it off"

I mean he's a toddler no one cares! And even if he was older and wanted to paint his nails id have no issues. I've always thought he can be his own person and do what he wants.

4teens our exes sound identical! Yea I could also imagine those words "it will turn him gay" coming out of his mouth too

Both my sons had nails painted and painted mine. Done my make up for me. Had dolls, prams, kitchens etc. They had what they asked for.

They are two of the most manly men and boys now. Rugby playing etc.

It has no effect on them what so ever! Let them be children and have fun. I honestly don’t understand this toys for boys and girls thing. At the end of the day if it doesn’t require genitalia to make it work, then it’s suitable for both genders!

When I taught reception all the boys would run to the house to play and the girls to the construction. As often they were playing with toys they didn’t have access to at home. As long as a child is learning and using their imagination that’s all that matters!

Amazona24 Yes they do!

loubluee Couldn't have put it better myself. My son has a kitchen, dolls, and countless role playing toys all marketed at girls. I will not stereotype him, nor will I tell him what toys he can and can't play with.

And for the record, even if he did turn out to be gay (which wouldn't be the fault of the Nail Varnish), I would love him the same. As long as he's happy and respectful I couldn't give a monkeys.

lou I let him play with my make up too and I've brought him a kitchen for Christmas.
All I care about is if he turns out to be a nice kind person. Not what preferences he has. But clearly my ex wants him to be as "manly" as possible.

He's your ex, ignore him and stop rising to the bait/being goady. It looks like the pair of you are spoiling for a fight so just shrug and walk away.

I had this with my DS when he was little also. He just loved colours so to see it on hands and toes was great to him. Occasionally i'd let him have some on but the responses from both men and women were ridiculous! Men particularly seemed to think it would turn him gay some how it's pathetic.

I wouldn't let his behaviour impact on my parenting at all, nothing wrong with the nail polish IMO.

But I probably would get a little travel nail polish remover to give to him if it was a more common occurrence - much better than him scraping it off!!

Just make sure that if your son ever questions whether something is "for girls" that you clearly, but unemotionally, explain that liking different things doesn't change who you are - as an example he might recognise one day, the current Spiderman (Tom Holland) got where he is by being a gymnast (then doing ballet in Billy Elliot) and he's successful and rich and a great athlete, and not gay. Nail varnish is cool - dont think it's fair that only women get to enjoy it.

chicken completely agree with you