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To not attend christmas jumper party

17 replies

Whydidyourecordthat · 09/12/2018 19:34

Have been invited to annual Xmas jumper party with friends on Friday

I don't want to go, would mean taking my 9 week old DS2 along who is exclusive breastfeeding, who either likes to scream all evening from 7pm, or go to sleep "for the night" at 7pm (there is no in between )

All friends invited barring one are childless

The one who has children takes her DC anywhere, anytime (I remember her taking her DS to a bridesmaid dress fitting late in evening at similar age, without batting an eyelid) so feel I would be judged by her standards

I suffer with anxiety, and the thought of taking DS out in evening is making me anxious.

Also don't want to host it, as I like to be in bed at 9pm to deal with night wakings and up early with 5yo DS1

I'm aware I probably sound like a loon, but that's the anxiety

OP posts:
LEMtheoriginal · 09/12/2018 19:36

You dont sound like a loon at all. You sound like a mother who has better things to do with her time!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 09/12/2018 19:36

Christmas jumper party Confused, what a big fat red herring.

You have a new baby. That’s a big get out cause for anything. Don’t go.

comedycentral · 09/12/2018 19:50

If you don't want to go. Don't go. It was an invitation, not a summons.

You don't sound like a loon. Anxiety sucks.

GivingBloodFeelingGreat · 09/12/2018 19:55

Don't go. It's not mandatory.

Enjoy your time with your baby!

MasterSensei · 09/12/2018 20:19

One of the best thing about having dd is the get out reason I have for social events! My husband and I are very happy sitting at home with the baby.

SnuggyBuggy · 09/12/2018 20:24

Don't do it if you don't want to

Huntawaymama · 09/12/2018 20:30

Honestly if it's causing you anxiety don't go. I remember getting so worked up about a friends birthday when DD2 was that age and about 4 days before I cancelled. I literally felt the weight lift as I hung up the phone and knew I'd made the right choice

Grace212 · 09/12/2018 20:35

you don't sound like a loon
I would just say to them that it's too much this year

TheFaerieQueene · 09/12/2018 20:42

Christmas jumpers are hideous. For that reason alone you don’t need to go 😉

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 09/12/2018 20:44

Don’t go. Send apologies and say you’ll look forward to December 2019’s party.

SwedishEdith · 09/12/2018 20:46

You don't need an excuse to get out of a Xmas jumper party.

Love51 · 09/12/2018 20:49

Parents and babies are different. Some need a routine, others don't. If you and your immediate family are all on the same page, you have a good deal. You can't please all of the people all of the time, and at this point in your life it is easy to choose who to prioritise!

HauntedPencil · 09/12/2018 20:52

I like Christmas Jumpers.

I wouldn't be biting someone's arm off to go to a busy place with a 9 week old baby at 7pm though.

You don't really need an excuse to say no!

BlancheM · 10/12/2018 13:39

I wouldn't dream of going out for the evening with a 9 week old (or without him) and I wouldn't think anyone would expect me to. Anyone who does is in the minority so I wouldn't worry about it.

CottonSock · 10/12/2018 13:41

You have a tiny baby, who will judge you?

PermanentlyFrizzyHairBall · 10/12/2018 13:43

No way would I go to a mainly childfree event in the evening with my tiny baby! If I desperately wanted to go to an event (and it would have to be something special) I'd try and get someone to look after baby at home (pump milk etc) otherwise I'd be staying in and putting my PJ's on at 7pm!

SushiMonster · 10/12/2018 13:50

You’ve got a tiny baby. You don’t have to go anywhere you don’t want to at 7pm!

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