To feel upset by my best friend

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So I won’t go in to too much detail but I’m finding it hard to move past this. Basically it started when she was acting weird with me, not reply to my messages, being blunt and cancelling plans (which she’s never done) after this happened for about a month or so I actually asked her if there was something I’d done wrong she said no just she had a lot going on and would tell me all about it when we went out (she then cancelled these plans) after that I left the ball in her court as I felt like an idiot trying to make the effort. About a week later she rang me to speak about the problem but what I’m finding it hard to move past is that it was something i could of helped with as I’d been in her position. I was the last person she told and it did kind of upset me a little. I’ve been there for her since she told me what was wrong and she’s moved passed the problem but now I’ve got things going on she doesn’t seem interested and is again not reply to my messages or taking days to respond. I love her dearly and we’ve been friends for years it just breaks my heart a little.

Her problem is not about you, don't make it so. That's how you lose friends.

Considering she doesn't run to you with her problems you really don't know what's going on in her life right now. She just might not be in a position to offer you support. Give it 6 months before you start worrying about it all.

Hm. Sounds like she doesn't consider you to be the support she required/s. Do you usually make things all about you?

I can understand why you feel heartbroken about it, it's awful when you care so much about someone and they don't open up to you. But sometimes even if you think you could have helped, it's up to that person who she shares it with, and up to her who she wants support from. Maybe she just felt more comfortable speaking to someone else, and if you really do care about her you would be happy that she was able to talk to someone, even if it wasn't you.
Can you tell us the nature of the problem? I have 2 best friends and may choose to share some things with one and not the other purely because I know i would feel more comfortable talking about certain things with one but maybe other things with the other depending what it is.
Just give her the space she needs, continue to be there for her and in the meantime see other friends. At the end of the day if you just get on at her for not telling you, you will likely push her further away.
Also, if you have stuff going on and she is not interested in being there for you, if this isn't due to her own issues then maybe think yourself about how much of a friend she is to you? Is it worth getting annoyed about?

No, not really. Just with us being so close, she’d never acted that way before I thought I might of upset her in some way. If I don’t reply to her for a few hours she’ll call me ignorant, but sometimes she goes days without replying. I’m just wondering if anyone had experienced a similar situation with there best friend?

CrossFit girl yeah I understand what your saying. And maybe that’s why I feel so hurt as she maybe doesn’t care as much as I thought she did and as much as I do.

Maybe she wanted to focus on her problem. Not focus on what 'You' thought was important.

I'm not saying this well. Sorry. taking this problem and making it about how You feel. When this should be about how 'She' feels

I understand why you feel hurt but at the same time it’s not about you.

People deal with things in different ways. You would have wanted her support that doesn’t mean you are entitled to have her seek yours in turn.

We went through a long journey of infertility treatment. Most people didn’t know. What I was struck by was two of my close friends being annoyed with me because I didn’t tell them. One actually said:

“Did you never consider that I might have liked to have supported you with this”

I was really taken aback by her selfishness and lack of awareness.