Cuteness aggression?

[ILoveHumanity]

My baby is only 10 months, white with brown hair and eyes. Same as me. His features aren’t too defined and he doesn’t have anything that stands out about him.

Neither do I.

I have noticed a couple of females, from another race usually.. come and start playing with the baby and they find him really cute because he is generally very friendly and interactive.

But as soon as they bond, they turn to me and tell me that the baby looks nothing like me, and must have taken only after his dad.

Last time it was “he is so beautiful..(me smiling with pride). oh but he looks nothing like you”.

Now I know this is not an issue, but the amount of times I keep getting this comment is starting to confuse me.

There is nothing distinctly different between my baby and me. We are at least the same colours?! And we don’t have any strong features for such comments to keep coming.

I feel petty but I’m starting to take it personally. AIBU?

It usually strangers that say that. And I do feel it comes with a spirit of meannness but I’m not sure.

Wtf Are you on about. My kids don’t look like me and people often say they must take after their dad. It’s just something people say when making conversation. People always comment on who babies look like. Stop seeing offense in everything and get a grip

poodle it’s fine for me to say he looks after his dad it’s totally fine!!

It’s just the way they passionately say that he looks “nothing” like me, and their phrasing makes it all odd and rude

takes after his dad*

"Females"? "Race"?

I’m a bit confused, to be honest. Not least because of how you’re describing race.

So you are mixed but identify more as white than black?

The women who are making the comments are black?

Well it’s rude to say he’s cute and follow it with he looks nothing like you (implying you look like a bag of old spanners!). I’d probably just laugh at their rudeness.

Dont let strangers get so close and involved with your baby.

Unless they are known to the father's side? In which case if he's pale like you, it might be a putdown and some kind of show of dominance on the father's side that he must look like the father even tho he's got your colouring. Whether he does or not.

I don't understand what you're trying to say. Just because your DS has the same colour hair and skin as you doesn't mean he looks like you.

My children (as do most) have a mix of mine and their fathers hair colour, skin colour and facial features. One looks more like me. The others look more like their dad but with my hair colour.

I'm mixed and my dp is white. I have three daughters. The youngest is a double of his father and completely white. I get people asking me "is he yours?".

Hmm what a strange post. I feel like it's all made up 🤣

I think I know what you mean op... I have a friend that went through a similar situation, sadly race is still such a big deal to some people and can make them feel intimidated to the point they feel the need to insult or make digs.

It's sad but it does happen, you just have to learn to ignore it or find some short comebacks of your own to shut them up.