We have planned a very very small wedding for next year. It will be at a register office, then tea and cake in a tea room.
In terms of guests, It will be immediate family (parents, siblings) plus my grandmother and one uncle (who has been like a father to me and is my grandmother's carer).
However, my partner is annoyed with me having more guests - I have more siblings than him too. He wants to invite his aunt, uncle, and uncle's wife to up his guest numbers.
I have a problem with this for three reasons
- He hasn't spoken to these people in around five years. They are strangers to us. It is weird to invite them to such an intimate gathering
- I am not inviting my other other uncles who I speak to and see on a regular basis, as we wanted it to be small. We are also not inviting friends, or others we actual involve in our lives
- The last time we saw his aunt (years ago) she was quite rude to me and questioned me about my career, and was really snobby about me working part time in a shop while funding my degree
I'm sure you are all going to say I am being unreasonable as he can invite whoever he wants to his wedding, so I will tell you the reason he wants to invite them....
For wedding presents.
He thinks, because they are quite well off, they will give a generous gift. This is the only reason and I find it tacky. It's making me think maybe we shouldn't be doing this at all.