But then my friend keeps sayin get it over and done with and he can be around more. And help me out more etc
Ok, so for the 6 weeks that you were single what support did you have to process and understand the abuse you'd been subjected to?
Did you have any support around how to spot the early warning signs of abuse?
Did you have any support on understanding the different ways abuse can manifest? On understanding what drives abuse? (It's about power and control, not violence or words or specific actions).
Because if you didn't, I really, really think you need to get yourself on the Freedom Programme before you even consider introducing a new partner to your children.
Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk - it's free to attend the group course, it's confidential, and you don't have to talk about yourself. It's not therapy.
In general, decent people don't rush into new relationships with someone who's fresh out of an extremely abusive situation, don't rush the pace of that new relationship, and don't pile on pressure to be involved in the lives of the children... It's actually quite concerning behaviour.