A second cousin I don’t see v often came over this evening. She contacted me a week or so ago to arrange it and suggested today. She said I / we could go there or she’d come here. I suggested she come here as she hasn’t been to my house before and also thought it would be easier for me as I’m 31 weeks pregnant.
She said her husband was working so it would be her and her daughters 10ish and 14ish I think. I said fine I’ll let DH know as he might do his own thing too.
I said I’ll order pizza etc and we agreed 5pm.
Anyway I realised at about 5 to 5 that I hadn’t give her my address. I texted her my address. She texted back not long after 5 saying thanks and that’s she’s “setting off now”. She lives about 20 mins away. I was thinking of wrapping a few gifts to go under my tree but didn’t as it had got close to 5 and I thought she’d be here.
She arrived after 6.
The only thing I could think of was she thought she’d stop off and get the food on the way or something (not that I’d asked her to) so I didn’t want to get annoyed but I was sitting here thinking I’m hungry and I expected to order not long after they’d arrived and I’d expect to be eating notnling after 6.
She said they’d eaten. So I sat here while she was here thinking I’m hungry and feel like I need to wait til she’s left to order food. Or I might have just cooked but I didn’t as I thought we were ordering food. She didn’t say no when I said I’d get food in.
Even when she said they’d eaten and I said “oh I would have ordered pizza” there was no acknowledgement.
Then while she was here she kept asking me to bring the rabbits in. The rabbits now live outside in a shed and I’ve spent much of today cleaning this house and floor and also cleaned the rabbits out. I also didn’t really want to go outside in the cold and dark, when I’d just had a shower and put clean clothes on before she arrived, to bring the rabbit in. I also didn’t really want it running around but they used to be house rabbits so it wasn’t the end of the world in that sense.
I could have said no but I have said before that her youngest daughter could see the rabbits whenever they come (but I’ve been saying that for about 2 and half years as that’s as long as I’ve lived here and the girls’ school is a mile down the road).
So I went out in the cold and wet to get the rabbit.
Obviously I’ve got to go out again.
I feel a bit dirty and have rabbit hair on me now.
While they were here both her and the youngest daughter were in the kitchen trying to coax out the rabbit, who was obviously scared of them, and I even said “the rabbit is scared”. I can understand the child but a woman in her forties?
I just think it was a bit inconsiderate and kind of felt like I was waiting for them to leave.
She’s lovely generally but I found her a bit insensitive today with coming late, having eaten first (she could have mentioned that when she texted at 5 saying she’s “setting off”) and if she’d said then she’d eaten and would be here around 6 I’d have had time to eat!
But maybe I’m just hangry?