To find motherhood In the early days overwhelming at times?

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I know I probably am not AIBU but I need to talk and I don’t have any friends with babies at the mo.
I have an older daughter so I have mum friends through her and I Have my friends before kids friends. Sometimes I feel like I am always always with the baby and don’t get enough one to one time with my daughter who I miss so very dearly in that sense. My partner does help but he works long hours and consequently the baby only ever wants me. My baby is only 6 months so I know things will get better but today it’s all consuming and overwhelming.

No advice to give but sending a big hug. DS is 8 months and I feel exactly the same way. My husband works long hours and gets back after he goes to bed, and leaves super early in the morning so I'm totally on my own Monday - Friday. I'm particularly feeling it tonight though as I'm having to sit in home alone whilst DH meets our friends for dinner... We couldn't get a short notice babysitter this close to Christmas and I'm feeling very lonely!

MrsMcW thank you and big hug back at you! I feel sad today as I was meant to go out with my friends tonight (first time in over a year) but baby has a cold and I can’t leave him as he doesn’t settle well at the best of times without me and couldn’t sleep well last night so it was thought best that I don’t go out. Had a bit of a barney with my partner this evening and he’s just now gone to bed and now I feel lonely too. Feels shit today all round.

Definitely not unreasonable, it is all consuming! I'm a single mum to an 8 month old (though he was 2 months premium so 6 months adjusted) and finding it really hard at the moment. I'm up and down the stairs all evening trying to settle him and it's a struggle to even have dinner at the moment let alone get anything done. I really want to get to the point where I could have an evening out but it just doesn't seem possible at the moment. I love him so much but it's the most intense thing I've ever experienced!

Sending hugs, it must be very hard with an older child too.

Premature, not premium!

snorkmaiden85 again, big hugs back to you! It is so hard some days isn’t it. Then I look at him and I do love him so much, as I do my older child too. I feel like I am constantly on call for every little need and it’s a tough job! Do you get any help from family or anything snork?

I'm here with you all!! Mine is 7 months and he is a velcro baby. Will only nap on me. Can't be put down for more than 3 mins or WW3 breaks out. House is a shit tip. Haven't hoovered for about 3 weeks. He's not a good sleeper at night either

It is very intense.

DH is out at his works Xmas party. He has 3 more dos booked in this week. Feel lonley and quite overwhelmed.

Our lives have changed so much yet they get to have a night off and be their old selves again. I guess I'm a bit jealous.

Love my baby to absolute pieces though and wouldn't change if I was given the chance. He's worth it.

Honestly, I always say write off the first 6wks.

You will find your own routine & settle into it. Just take it slowly & whatever you do, don't compare yourself to these apparent superwomen, they're w myth. You're doing great OP, big hugs!

@Florries I'm with you on the jealousy. I feel so mean and it's completely irrational but oh goodness I resent DH for his time away. Had a hissy fit the other day when he was away in Germany for work. I rang him at 8am on a Tuesday and he wasn't even awake yet... I'd been up with DS since half 4 and he had the audacity to be annoyed that I woke him!