AIBU or should my partner cope with baby better ?

[TomLeBoo]

We have a 5 month old and A few times he has called me when I’m out on my own to come back home and get baby or see to baby as he is inconsolably crying. I do Come back as I don’t like to think of my baby crying to that point where they can’t breathe kind of thing. Sometimes I try to put mßy other child to bed and my husband will try and feed baby but baby cries and he can’t console him so I come along and he is ok.
Is it the baby? Are other babies like this and only want mum? Should be husband just be left to it as many of my friends have said to just do so?
Usually when I get to baby he is fine. I feel like I’m starting to never be away from baby, as much as I love him, I feel like i Care for ALL his needs, all of the time or maybe that’s how it should be ?

It depends on the baby.

Are you a SAHM and he works?

Sometimes you've just got to get over them wanting you and wait until they get a bit older.

If you really need a break, then you'll have to leave him to cry.

My daughter was very much like this. We persevered with just short stints of my husband alone with her, and gradually increased the time. It wasn't until she was at least a year that she would willingly go to him. Now she's older she still much prefers to go anywhere I go, and tends to be quite grumpy when alone with him, but he can have her several hours at a time without her being distraught. It still keeps improving with time too

dd was fine with dad. if I snuck in I could see she ws fine. as soon as she heard me or saw me she would cry at me in anger that I hadd dared to leave her with her dad.

as for you. may be baby, may be dp who is using it as a way to prevent you going out so he does not have to look after the child himself.

If you were at work or at a hospital appointment or other situation where
you had no choice but to leave your baby, could you instantly return if the baby cried for you? I would think probably not. Therefore it's wise to get your baby used to other carers.

I would start with short periods ...a coffee with friends fairly local and build up to longer periods.

Of course its a hassle to deal with an upset baby but if you always come back this won't change. Once away on your short coffee meeting or whatever you decide to do I would turn phone to silent...not notice texts. Baby will probably settle with partner ...If not. after a reasonable period of time, you can return. Make sure that all food milk nappies wipes easily available until partner gets used. If you don't try sticking it out until you've done what you left to do ...then you'll never know if it can be done and what happens when you really have to leave eg to sit with very sick relative or something. Good luck op.