So there is this guy. He is the sweetest guy ever but I dont know what to do anymore.
We have been out a couple times and we get along super well and we are insanely attracted to eachother, physically.
But he told me from the start he is not in the right place for a relationship. I was fine with it, dont need anything serious. He said he is very attracted to me but doesnt want to lead me on. So I suggested we should just have some casual fun. He said that would be up to me, but it would probably get complicated.
Anyways a few days later I told him I was up for casual and we sexted and flirted for a few days via texts. Then when I wanted to get this going, he bailed. We were talking about some more emotional things and he literally ran out the door! Got a text from him saying he isnt ready for casual yet. Said its too confusing.
Theres a lot more to it, but I dont want to write a novel here.
The thing is, I know we have something and he said that too. And I just know by how he looks at me! Etc.
The only thing he ever told me about his ex is that they were together for 9 years. And he has been single for 1 and a half years and hasnt slept with anyone since.
Now he didnt say it but Im wondering if there was abuse in that relationship and that is why he is acting so weird? I know that there are a lot of abuse survivors on here and would be very grateful if you could give me your opinions on this?
At the moment him and I are very friendly, but its friends territory because I stoped pushing for more as he seemed to be freaking out about that.
Im not normally someone who chases men so this makes me feel bad alot. Im wondering should I completely distance myself? Or stay friends? I dont know what to do. Its so hard to let him go as he is the sweetest guy ever and there is something between us for sure but he doesnt seem to be able to deal with it.