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Original poster

To expect my friends to pay?

252 replies

samppo · 08/12/2018 15:39

Me and 3 friends are going away for one night next year June.
The hotel room is 2 double beds and is costing £248.
As usual I reserved it on my bank card (using booking.com) 3 months ago.
Today checked my bank and yesterday they've charge my account the full £248.
I've text my friends telling them what's happened and can they all pay there share.
They've all said no this close to Christmas,they have nights out planned and this close to Christmas can't do it.
So basically I've lost £248 ..I can't afford to cover £248.
Aibu here?

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peachypetite · 08/12/2018 15:41

That is annoying! Could you ask them to pay half now and half in January so you would at least get some of the money now?

Caselgarcia · 08/12/2018 15:41

I would query why the hotel has charged you now?

Original poster
samppo · 08/12/2018 15:41

They've pretty much said they can't pay any of it.
Just a sorry nothing we can do. Ha

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Loopytiles · 08/12/2018 15:41

Never wise to book on behalf of others.

itbemay · 08/12/2018 15:41

YANBU but maybe it should have been checked when full payment was due before booking.

Original poster
samppo · 08/12/2018 15:42

I've just looked on the hotel policy's and it says
"Can charge you anytime prior to arrival "

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RoxanneMonke · 08/12/2018 15:42

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Passthecake30 · 08/12/2018 15:42

You haven't lost £248, you just have to cash flow the money?
Can you put their share on a credit card (by spending up to that amount on a card on other things) and tell them their share is on a credit card incurring interest, that they'll need to pay?

Original poster
samppo · 08/12/2018 15:43

When I booked it said "no prepayment needed,pay on arrival "
When you click on the terms and conditions it then says "full payment can be taken anytime prior to arrival"

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SauvignonBlanche · 08/12/2018 15:43

Can you get a refund if you cancel?

Loopytiles · 08/12/2018 15:43

But yes, your friends should pay up. What are the cancellation terms?

SparklyLeprechaun · 08/12/2018 15:43

Did you tell them you were booking the hotel? I can't imagine booking a hotel 7 months in advance, that's just weird. Cancel, get your money back and book closer to the time.

Original poster
samppo · 08/12/2018 15:43

Unfortunately I don't have any credit cards.
Don't even have a overdraft.

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RangeRider · 08/12/2018 15:43

Can you cancel?

BitchQueen90 · 08/12/2018 15:44

This happened to me before, I specifically chose the "pay on arrival" option because I had to save up the money. They unexpectedly charged me a few months before I was staying. I got in direct contact with the hotel and they refunded it for me.

Original poster
samppo · 08/12/2018 15:44

Yeah because it's a big concert in the city that night,we booked as we wouldn't get any rooms closer to the date plus the hotels all increase the prices.

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Regnamechanger · 08/12/2018 15:45

This is easy, email the hotel and point out that you didn't tick to pay at the time of booking. They will refund you. If you have problems contact booking.com.

LyndaLaHughes · 08/12/2018 15:46

It's not the problem if your "friends" can't pay. The fact is they have to. You aren't a bank. Just message back saying they are being completely unfair as they are complaining they cannot pay one third of the price so how on earth do they expect you to pay all of it on your own at this point. Your friends are CFs sorry.

RangeRider · 08/12/2018 15:46

Tell your friends you're cancelling unless they pay. If they still refuse cancel & book yourself a single room so you're covered

AntMoon · 08/12/2018 15:46

Is the night away still happening? They should do the decent thing and pay up now.

I think I'd just send another message saying you can't be out of pocket the full amount either and hope they pay their share - or even half.

If they still refuse, I'd look into whether you can cancel for free and get a refund? And in the future get the money off your friends before you reserve, or refuse to be the wallet.

LyndaLaHughes · 08/12/2018 15:47

Not your problem sorry that should say.

Butchyrestingface · 08/12/2018 15:47

What if one of them changes their mind about going between now and June (perfectly possible)? I wouldn’t expect the person booking to book without first checking a) how far in advance will the money be taken and b) is it refundable with advance cancellation? Was this not discussed before you booked?

I don’t think there’s much you can do at this stage, beyond asking how soon they can settle (and pray noone wants to pull out!)

Original poster
samppo · 08/12/2018 15:47

I don't even think I can cancel as it was a non refundable room.
I got a good deal as I clicked book with no refund possible.

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Helplessfeeling · 08/12/2018 15:47

So are they saying they are not paying at all? Or just not so close to Christmas? Either way it is rubbish behaviour but if they still intend to pay up after Christmas then I would not cancel yet. Can you get onto the hotel and query why they told you to pay on arrival if that wasn't the case?

ShoppingBasket · 08/12/2018 15:47

Sometimes they charge the card as a pre check and you get refunded again in a few days.

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