To think my dh is being utterly stupid about our Christmas tree?!

[Owletty]

So, growing up we always had a real tree.

When dh and I first got together and got our first house it was small and I had a couple of small artificial trees.

Then I asked for a real tree when we moved to our first normal sized home. Dh moaned and said no because;

• disposal issues of the tree afterwards
• we were away over Christmas so pointless he said!

I bought a lovely full sized artificial one which I decorate nicely. I really like it. We've used it for the last six years.

Roll forward to this year and we're, for the first time, hosting his family on Christmas Day. He's just complained about my artificial tree saying that it won't feel like Christmas without a real tree!!

Would you feel your day was a let down because horror of horrors your hosts tree was artificial? AIBU to think he's overreacting?

Feeling second best isn’t ‘another issue’ it’sTHE issue.

it won't feel like Christmas without a real tree!!

What an A Grade Wanker. So you wanted a ‘real tree’, but it wasn’t ‘worth it’ for YOU, but it’s ‘not Christmas’ for HIS FAMILY?

It’s clear this isn’t about the tree. Why do you stay with him?

Real trees are a massive fire hazard anyway, most have been cut since November.

So it's only worth the trouble and expense for his family, not for you? I'd actually be really pissed off about that.

Me too. Put your tree up first, complete with lights. Maybe you are not as petty as I am.

Is he fucking serious?!

He wouldn't "let" you get a real tree before because blah blah, but as soon as his fecking family are coming, it's all "we must have a real tree for it to feel like Christmas"?
What does he think the last 6 Christmases were, fucking Easter?

He's an utter arsehole.

However, I would use this to get a real tree if you want one and then you can always have real tree from now on because he's said it's not really Christmas without one...

I think you just caught him out for being a tight fisted scrooge all these years. ....... let him get you a real christmas tree and then laughingly retell this story to his whole family at his expense. :)

If someone was going to judge me on my tree, I wouldn't give a rats arse about that person's opinion on anything at all.

You asked him for a real tree? Why do you have to ask him for stuff? You should’ve stood your ground and got what you wanted then. Now he thinks he’s the boss.

His family probably won’t care.

His lack of respect for you is a bigger problem.

Op as pp have said if DH wants a real tree he can get of his ass and go and get one and decorate it . I bet he changes his mind about how much he wants one .

I grew up have real trees and would love one now but I dont drive and do not fancy getting on a bus with one then dragging it for a 15 min walk once i am off the bus , it would be bald by the time i get home !

musicposy
When me and DH first got together we got a real tree ( he could drive )I had a dog , She was a rescue too I had her for about 10 years but this was the first time she had had a tree in 'her' house , she spent the 1st half hour investigating it while we decorated it , we stood back please with out efforts , went to make a brew food or some such , heard a loud crash , found our dog holding the tree by the stump with her bum in the air tail going 10 to the dozen , her typical pose when she wanted us to throw a stick for her !

I’m also a Christmas tree lover and I admire them all, real or artificial .

If you are hosting his family, OP, I hope he is meal planning, shopping and cooking.

He sounds like a prize wanker: you couldn't have a real tree because he didn't think it was important enough for your Christmas, but now that his family is coming to visit they need one for it to feel like Christmas?

Twat.

I'd show him this thread.

it won’t feel like Christmas without a real tree
Did the last decade or so of artificial trees (that he insisted on) not feel like Christmas?
What a tool.

Thanks everyone. Glad you all think like me - thank you for posting 😁 I'm trying not to get too annoyed with him. thumbwitches your comment about Easter in particular made me guffaw

I've done the tree (my lovely artificial one) this afternoon. I think it looks quite nice too.

Dh did get all the stuff out of the loft for me and took Dd over the park to give me some toddler free space to do it.

I have also put some fairy lights over the large potted plants we have in the kitchen. I'll stick a bit of tinsel over them too at some point

I was thinking of a real tree one with roots on to be extra eco friendly then one of my kittens pissed in my potted plant....artificial all the way

Ask him if he wants to be the tree top fairy and then shove it up his arse

Angie

I love that you've decorated the indoor plants - superb!

really because he's a grinch!

I suspect he's selfish all year though. How does he make you feel second best?