Earplugs at night 3 month old

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so yesterday my husband manned up and gave me a night off from our 14 week old baby boy, who still wakes up every hour/hour and a half at night, finishes two bottles at night (he is a big boy) and doesn't nap more than half an hour during the day. So far so horribly usual, both my older girls were exactly the same but with reflux. Fml I know.
Anyway I woke up to expect/anticipate his stories of horror (and also wake up to his newfound understanding of the state Im in), but I still cannot believe it:
the little one slept from 10pm to 2am and then from 3am to 5am!
that hasnt happened to me in 3 months!

Turns out that DH popped in earplugs when he went to sleep.

That would have never occured to me as I would be afraid to not hear if baby has some sort of issue. But it obviously was fine (this time).

Is sleeping with earplugs next to your newborn a thing?

What do you guys think of it?

As a parent in a house with three young children it would never occur to me to wear ear plugs. For many reasons
I’d rather be knackered than not hear something but each to their own.

The husband fully planned to ignore any noise coming out of the baby. What with the ear plugs.

No he didn't.

Why else would he have worn them?!
Genuine question??

to defend husband here he is a super super light sleeper (i blame his genes for my nonsleeping babies btw) and usually sleeps in other room so he wont also get up every hour.
so i wasnt worried so much that he wouldnt hear baby but really, more surprised that baby didnt actually wake up completely but continued sleeping even if noone put his dummy back etc...

just wondering if baby needs me less than i thought (gasp).
well well find out tonight...

I think a lot of people get up to their babies more easily than necessary to be honest. If they need you, they'll let you know. Usually they're just complaining that they're awake when they want to be asleep and will go back over!

OP I can relate to that. I'm a light sleeper and wake up and respond to have sniffle or shuffle of my babies.

I breed horrific sleepers and I wonder if my 'immediate response' has caused this.

I couldn't wear ear plugs though it has given me food for thought with regards to responding not so quickly to baby 3 when he comes though.

Being a 'zombie' isn't really a safe parenting choice either is it? Speaking from experience from the time I nearly got DD1 and I killed from reversing into the path of a BUS whilst severely sleep deprived. I still feel sick about it.

@huntawaymama mine are older now but I still nudge DH with my foot if kids wake up and I am too sleepy

Not for a three month old. What if they were choking on their vomit or just screaming in pain for some reason?

I wouldn’t go as far as earplugs but I do put the duvet up around my ears once ds (12 weeks) is down for the night so thoses little snuffles don’t keep me from dropping off. My dh happened to be awake the other night and said he was awake snuffling for a while, I was fast asleep, and ds eventually dropped off on his own. If I’d heard him snuffling I would have assumed it would descend into crying and whipped him out of bed immediately for a feed, just goes to show that babies can sometimes settling without the intervention of mum.

I wouldn’t sleep with earplugs in...I wouldn’t be able to sleep, different scenarios stabbing at my brain whilst I tried

Another earplug user here. They only block out the noise you don’t need to hear.

I think pp are massively overestimating how good earplugs work. You can still hear everything, just a bit dulled.

SIDS risk is lessened by baby being in the same room as you when they sleep. Theory is that hearing someone else breathing reminds them to breathe. A monitor does not replace that. You were lucky.

This is the kind of thing that has to be weighed against parents becoming heavily sleep deprived. Very exhausted people make mistakes at the wheel, leave cookers on, fall asleep on couches with the baby on their chest. There has to be a balance.

ok so tonight i stuffed in earplugs really lightly.

result:
well he did sleep from 8pm to 10pm but it took me an hour to fall asleep with the buds so...
after that went on to wake each our and finished 2 bottles and a long and a short feed at breast.

he did sleep better on his back though (until 4) because i wasnt tempted to flip him by every little groan.
he also turned out to be marginally more comfortable in the cot than i thought-he was happy to wait in cot while i prepped the bottle.
and i think i witnessed him settling himself once.

so ill keep trying and see if we get used to it. also will try to add an extra feed during day.