Hello. I think this is a pretty common problem for a lot of families now and in the past. But aibu to find it really upsetting?
Been with husband 17 years, we have 2 children under 10, one who is being assessed for adhd and autism.
My husband has studied hard to get a good job and he works very hard. I also studied and worked, but now I am a sahm (that's a whole other story, see previous threads)
Anyway, this means husband leaves early. Comes home late. Hardly sees the kids during the week. A pretty common problem.
Then at weekends he is either doing more work in his office and doesn't want to be disturbed or he is doing DIY or gardening which he loves.
It is very rare he has time to fit the family in. Always has a reason why he can't play a computer game with son or come to the park with us etc.
Over the years it has ended up being myself and the kids doing things, including going on holidays in the UK to our caravan in Wales, and husband doing his own thing.
I am pretty sick of it, my son gets upset and feels he comes last to dad's work all the time. When I speak to husband about it he gets angry saying he's working to provide for the family etc and to allow me to be a sahm. Which I do understand, but I don't feel the work/life balance is good right now.
His own father was absent alot due to work and they don't have a close relationship and he hates that yet is doing the same with his own children. I dream of taking the kids and going to live by the seaside, but obviously life isn't that easy. Any advice to make life easier for everyone?