Name change as a bit of a sensitive issue.
Have a friend who I see occasionally, we met at a place we worked for a short time, I left afterwards but we kept in touch.
Said friend became a bit of a major pain in the butt when it comes to meetings and I am at the end of my tether - DH says I am capable of saying no but then agonise over it and that's probably true.
We live in different towns but I would have always travelled to hers for meetings so recently I started suggesting meeting closer to my place than to hers for a change which she didn't really like because my child is older than hers so I am the one who needs to adjust her schedule and travelling times. When I suggested she can leave her 1.5 year old son with her DH (not breastfed or anything), it was rejected as an improper suggestion.
She also insists I bring my DD to our meetings (she's almost 9) so "children can play together". Not really because a 9 year old child can't really play with a 1.5 year old toddler, it's more like an unpaid babysitter.
We were supposed to meet in October but her DS apparently got sick and her husband wasn't there so we cancelled the meeting. Fair enough, even thought the cancellation was so sudden and unconvincing that I felt like it was more the fact that I refused to travel long and suggested a place closer to where I live, which would still be close to her anyway.
Last week I suggested a nice place to meet, a Christmas market close to me but, again, rather close to her too. I was told she would look at it but no confirmation of time and date. Saturday she starts chatting me up while I was in the middle of big shopping, had no time to respond, only in the evening where I was told off because "weren't we supposed to meet on that day". Well no, because we had no precise time set and I don't do spontaneous meetings because while I am ready to accommodate changes, I make my own plans unless otherwise confirmed.
So Wednesday this week I tell her, let's meet Saturday same place, this time, please confirm by Friday afternoon.
She read it, no reply for yes or no. And I know for certain she will start chasing me up tomorrow morning when I already made different plans. I don't feel like constantly running after her, asking her to confirm a meeting.
I just feel like whenever we meet it has to be on her terms and she reserves the right to change her plans or decide on the spot which I really don't like because after having spent my working week commuting and working full-time, I want to make plans involving either my family or some precious me-time.
And I really take it very hard to fob someone off but I am getting pissed off with her. If she doesn't want to do it, she should simply say no. I told her already that sometimes I would like to meet somewhere closer to my place because after a week of commute I would like to travel somewhere close during the weekends and I was the one who always adjusted my plans previously to travel where it suited her.
Would you still keep in touch or simply give up?