AIBU to be annoyed with ex over daughters Christmas present.

[notaperfectparent]

Back history - it has taken along time ( daughter 5 ) for him to contribute anything including time.
I am a full time carer to her she has a life limited disease.
So as it stands he pays 50 pound a month, works 35 -40 hours a week, lives at home with mum and has no other responsibilities.
Christmas is coming around with her birthday shortly followed.
She wants a particular game console which to be honest despite some will say she is too young it made sense as she is in isolation trapped to a bed a lot of the time so it will help in times where I have to go home to get clothes / sort house stuff.
So we spoke and agreed this would be her main present for Christmas and birthday as including games it was a lot.
We agreed to go half on it.
However it never happened I paid for the console ( 280 ) he paid for games ( 88 )
I then just messaged him to ask him if he was putting her matinence in today as I was due to pay for her ballet fees.
I got the reply that he had ordered the games so that was his contribution this month and will give me 20 pound next month.
Not really a Christmas present from him if it’s actually out the matinence money ? So again I’m the one left short ?
He says I’m being unreasonable and the matinence is for anything daughter related and that is daughter related.

Bloody hell I forgot the fecking link. I am a twat.

www.nidirect.gov.uk/articles/reciprocal-enforcement-maintenance-orders-remos

YANBU.

Wrap all the gifts from you, write a letter to his mother and look in to REMO arrangements.

£50 a month is a disgrace.

Where is he?

I agree - I think you should say to him that you are going to give her the gifts from you as he has now only paid maintenance, not bought her a gift.

Does he fucking think £100 a month (if he's assuming that's a fair share) pays for everything a kid needs to wear, use, travel in, go to, eat etc AND a games console? Is he thick?

People can be sued outside the jurisdiction. Go to a free legal aid clinic or a solicitor and they will tell you how to go about it. Just because he doesn’t live here doesn’t mean he can get away with his responsibilities. What an a**hole

I initially read it as £500 a month & even then though what a miserly fucker to begrudge his daughter a present.

Would speaking to his u do any good or would she just take his side/stay out of it?

Assume he's in Isle of Man from what the OP has described?

Explain to the fool that maintenance covers her life needs such as food, clothes etc.
Ask him if she should be put in the garden and not fed so the money can go towards her Christmas present.
What a total idiot.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

If it is the Isle of Man then I am a resident there and it is definitely £53.40 a week (and that's if it hasn't gone up in the past couple of years)! And since he is in full time employment then he wouldn't get away with any less!