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Aibu to assume he's been talking shit about me

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Coldshoulders · 07/12/2018 10:32

So i have a fwb who I been seeing a while now and it seems to be going ok. We keep things between ourselves and i haven't felt the need to tell my friends about him as we ain't in a relationship and i don't think there's much to say! Add into the fact there is an age gap between us and he's related to one of my best friends (and no it's not her dad!) So I keep things to myself everything is fine. Yesterday my friends bf called over to collect some Avon for his Mrs my best friend (he had been sat with fwb that day) he came picked up the Avon and on his way out started telling me he's having problems with my friend in the bedroom, found it very strange but I just said things will work out between u both she's just had a baby things are gunna change. He then went on to make a comment about she never let's him do anal so I just laughed in shock and he left. Once again strange. Anyways go over to see fwb last night who was sat with my friends bf yesterday. We then had sex and tried to initiate anal which he's never done before and it's not something I want to do at all so that didn't happen! Came home thinking he's been sat with my friends bf all day he comes over talking about anal randomly and then fwb tries to go there! Aibu to suggest he's been speaking about me to this other guy and that's where the random anal convo came from? May I add my friends bf is a very sarcastic person so looking back now it's making me think he was laughing at me. Now I'm wondering if anything has been said and if yes then what? Bit of a coincidence. Before u all start saying anal is part of what men want or whatever he's never tried it before we never discussed it and I'm not one for making an exit an entry just no chance. Aibu presuming there's been something said here? Sorry for long rant lol x

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ImNotKitten · 07/12/2018 10:33

No idea. You need to ask your FWB.

Yutes · 07/12/2018 10:40

I can see why you would think that.

But.

No one here is going to be able to tell you for definite.

They could have had a general conversation about sex?

Anyway - regarding anal - he initiated something you (the two of you) hadn’t discussed and which you are NOT ok with. I don’t think I could continue to be intimate with someone with no regard for my sexual boundaries. Everyone should be allowed to be in control of what happens with their bodies.

Coldshoulders · 07/12/2018 10:46

Yeh think u are deffo right there I will only know if I decide to ask him. And I was abit shocked there we was getting it on n he tries to open the back door metorphorically I don't think so. Gunna have to have a think about this now. Not the anal that's a deffo no go 😂

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TakemedowntoPotatoCity · 07/12/2018 10:47

Looks like it's Friday on MN....

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