Would you tell

[trevstation18]

Would u snitch on someone??
Say said person had taken a car without consent crashed it, fled scene, staged a burglary and now acting the hero changing locks on door an comforting etc.
They wiped there fingerprints off steering wheel and gear stick so when arrested was no dna evidence they was there so released with nfa but I’ve texts proving they did do it.
Like I don’t wanna go police but I do think said persons mum should know instead of living in fear that someone’s broken into home an stolen car when it was her own son 🤔🙄 I’m in a right predicament cos I find it immoral and just wrong but then kinda know it’s not really my business except said person was my partner

I'm assuming you broke up in which case they won't believe you anyway, thinking you are bitter and starting trouble, so it wouldn't be worth the drama. First rule of snitching - if you're going to snitch, snitch early.

Ex partner?

No, you will be resented by all parties.

If you have text message evidence then go to the police. The Mum won't side with you but the police will investigate and act accordingly. Just be wary if you are making it up they will figure it out.

I would habe questionable doubts if it was my car and it was someone I knew who got arrested even if it was nfa. When it comes to stealing and lying then morally yes. If it is the person who's car family member or son i would tread carefully as most families are close and most would sort it out eventually. Maybe you should tell them but deep down they prob already know who it is when they arrested that person. I personally wouldn't get involved in family business as they will work it out move on x

Go to the police if you have the evidence. And break up with the tosser!

Well he sounds like a catch. So on one hand you have a lady who is scared to be in her own house and on the other a man who is twat enough to 1) commit a crime against his own mother 2) commit further crimes to cover up the first one and is stupid enough to write down incriminating information in a text and send it to another person. Morally I think you know what the answer to this is. I’m guessing he’s generally a bad lad which is why the police arrested him so I suppose you have to think about the repercussions for yourself of reporting him to the police. You could of course tell the mother and let her decide if she wants police to pursue the matter further.

Sorry to clear up confusion he was my partner up until this incident happened, we had an argument over what he'd done being wrong and him wanting me to keep quiet.
I think I'm going to have to send the message to his mum and then it's down to her if she takes it further with the police or not.

So did u send his mum a msg? Was u in a relationship with this guy and now u have split up now u decide to tell his mum what he's like but u already knew what he was like and didn't tell him mum straight away, questionable motives here. His mum prob knows what he's like and prob wouldn't press charges anyway. Just be careful if u want him back then this will deffo end things with u both for sure. All the best op x

Why would she want a self confessed liar and criminal back?

I didn't say she did want him back I said if she does this then it will end things with them for good. Why would she not tell his mum what he had done before they broke up? Because she's angry at him over the break up and now feels morally she should tell his mummy on him which if she was being genuine she would of done straight away before they split. I was only saying I don't know if she wants him back but if they are split and she's not bothered then why even be concerned what he's done in the past?

The car was only taken 2 days ago
We broke up due to me arguing with him telling him I believed his mum should know the truth and when he refused to tell her I ended it with him it's not a case of being angry over the break up when it's me who ended it.
I was looking for advice not bitchy remarks!
I have now told his mum who thanked me for the honesty and is taking the information to the police.
I obviously wasn't aware that he was a car thief prior to this so don't get the bitchiness
Morally I believed it was right thing to do to make his mum aware of who really stole the car and I have only sat on the information I have for 2 days to give him chance to own up to what he had done

trevstation18 well I think that’s fair enough - I’m sure the mum is very grateful. I’m sure most people would be divided in real life if their partner committed a crime. I don’t think many people would report them to the police much as they think they would.

You did the right thing, OP.

Don't ever go back to the Dirtbag. If he can do that to his mother...

I wasn't trying to be bitchy I asked u what the circumstances was and make an assumption based on ok. I wished u all the best with the situation no bitchiness intended.

Based on op*