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How often do you go on dates with dp?

36 replies

Confusednewname · 07/12/2018 00:26

We both work full time shift work, see each other around 3 times a week. Usually its us staying in, cooking dinner then chilling out in front of the tv. We've been together 2 years and are both 29. I love him, and would love to go out more but he never initiates them. How often do you and dp go out on dates? I know every relationship is different, but I just want to see if our once every few months is average? Or if I'm asking too much

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Bigonesmallone3 · 07/12/2018 00:37

I work part time my DP works more than full time!! He is 28 I'm 27 we have two DC and one on the way, we have been together 10 years our last date night/weekend together will be 2 years ago in jan!

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WereYouHareWhenIWasFox · 07/12/2018 00:46

I cannot bring myself to use the term date night, but I go out with my husband every week. Friday afternoon happy hour is a favourite, but more often for dinner, or to see a band. We have also started to go out more in the day to art galleries etc. Our kids are older but even when they were little we went out most weeks and also had weekends away. And when we were actually dating it was multiple times each week, we never stayed in!

Merryoldgoat · 07/12/2018 00:47

Before children we were out all the time - several times a week.

Now? Once since the baby was born 9 months ago.

1stTimeMama · 07/12/2018 00:49

Approximately 14 times in 10 years. I'm 36, he's 41 and we have 4 young children. He works full time and I'm a SAHM. We don't have any childcare, so we're incredibly limited in what we can do.

YourMilkshakeIsBetterThanMine · 07/12/2018 00:54

Twice this year! Pre-children we went out at least once every weekend.

AornisHades · 07/12/2018 00:57

We went out together in 2014.

starzig · 07/12/2018 11:38

What exactly do you mean by date? We do stuff together, go out together, stay in together. What do you need to do to distinguish normal stuff from a date?

Greaterthanthesumoftheparts · 07/12/2018 11:42

We usually try to get out for dinner on a Friday night, one week with DS (6 months) and the second with DSS (9 years) in toe. Tonight we’re going to go to the local Christmas market with DS and get some dinner whilst we’re there. We managed a double date with some friends earlier this week when my mum babysat. We live overseas so don’t often get grandparent cover but always take the opportunity when we get it and my mum loves getting DS to herself for a couple of hours. We’re lucky in that DS is at an age where he can either sit and eat in the high chair with us or is asleep in his pram so restaurant eating is quite easy. I guess this will not last long!

TweedAddict · 07/12/2018 11:43

Most weekends we do something “date nightish”. It can be anything to going for a meal, cinema or staying in at home with candles and film. We used to go away for a few weekends a year to spas or cottages but money hasn’t allowed that lately

Frosty66611 · 07/12/2018 11:43

Probably 2 times a month and we do things like dinner/lunch out or cinema. Neither of us drink so we aren’t interested in going to pubs/bars/clubs etc. We also try and do one day trip a month too like the zoo, museum, picnic (when it’s warm), long country walk etc

NotUmbongoUnchained · 07/12/2018 11:45

We have a 2 and 4 year old but our date night is one of our top priorities. We go out every Thursday night just the two of us for a meal and drinks or cinema or whatever.

Singlebutmarried · 07/12/2018 11:46

Together 17 years. Married 12. 1 child.

We go out probably once every couple of month as DH works away and is rarely home.

Alfie190 · 07/12/2018 11:46

Not very often at the moment, maybe twice a month.

adaline · 07/12/2018 11:46

Maybe once a month or so? We both work different shifts, so that combined with my long commute and the fact that we have a dog means it doesn't happen much more than that.

But we have four days off together this week so we'll do something together everyday - lunch out, some long dog walks (which I love as we can spend hours together just talking and being together), maybe a movie night and a takeaway too.

But the next one won't be until January and then after that probably March! We do spend every evening together though (pretty much, obviously we go out separately too) so I don't feel we need specific date nights as such.

kmc1111 · 07/12/2018 12:39

A few times a week. When the kids were young once or twice a week.

Mulberry72 · 07/12/2018 12:54

We try and go out together on our own once a month, maybe cinema, a meal and a few cocktails etc.

It’s nice to get dressed up, and it just be the two of us.

RoboticMary · 07/12/2018 12:58

Never! Sad

Last ‘date’ was 2014. Not much we can do about it though. He works long hours, no family nearby to babysit and he doesn’t trust a babysitter...

Oysterbabe · 07/12/2018 12:58

Pre kids every weekend. With a 1 and 3 year old and no childcare, almost never.

festivedramallama · 07/12/2018 13:01

Prechildren so about 1998 smallest is 3 so it’ll be a while 😂

Shoxfordian · 07/12/2018 13:24

We've been together about 2 and a half years

We live together, usually go out for dinner once a week, sometimes more often.

Whataboutbobbo · 08/12/2018 19:29

Never.

AntMoon · 08/12/2018 19:36

Together 9 years, we have 'date night' every Friday. :) Meal out, evening in, cinema etc.

Wooooooooaaaaaaaahhhhhhh · 08/12/2018 19:42

3 times a year. Birthdays and anniversary.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 08/12/2018 19:44

About every 4 to 6 months. He works full time 9 to 5 and I'm a SAHM. We have four kids, so our date nights have fallen by the wayside. But we don't really mind, we factor in time together at home when the kids are in bed. We would probably go out a couple of times a month if we didn't have children.

SoyDora · 08/12/2018 19:45

Pre DC we went out all the time, even if just for one drink at the local. Probably 3 times a week.
Not so much now, but I miss it!

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