Aibu to say I don't want to go?

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Ok so I think I know the answer but here goes!

Hubbys work is closing soon and they offered him a job a good few hours away, they have also offered to help with moving so money isn't an issue

Originally I wanted to go but the past few weeks I just don't want to! He is supposed to start in the next few weeks but we wouldn't have to move for a few months

But

I like our house now and don't particularly want to change the kids schools and move from their friends, I don't want to be further from family than we already are and I don't want to have to make new friends etc

I don't currently work but will need to in a few months if we move or not (not sure it makes a difference but don't want to drip feed) so I know I'll meet people

He will obviously have a ready made group of friends as he already knows some people who work there already

I am worried about finding a new house in an area neither of us knows but also if he now backs out of this job (because of me) I'm worried he won't be able to get another within the company

Maybe it's just hormones as I've just had our youngest child (last month) but I just can't shake the feeling that moving isn't what's best but I don't know why and don't have any answers when he asks what's wrong

I don't really know what I'm hoping for with this post, maybe a little perspective? Thank you for reading if you got this far

No advice really but bumping for you.

What's the alternative? If you don't go, presumably your DH will lose his job. Would he be able to find a new one relatively easily? Whether you are reasonable or not depends on that I think.

YANBU. Must be so difficult for you atm with new baby. You seem a bit overwhelmed by the thought of moving, understandably. Can’t offer much advice other than the standard pros/cons list and discuss with OH to clarify things. Hope it all works out for you and you reach a decision you are both happy with

He would find a new job but it could still involve moving

He would be able to stay where he is now until it shuts (no actual date as of yet) any new job out of the company he's with now would probably involve a substantial pay cut

Other alternative would be him working away but I don't think that's fair on him or the kids and would likely increase our outgoings but probably wouldn't involve a pay cut

The thought of moving when you're just adjusting to a new baby is going to be daunting and not an ideal time to be house hunting.
How far away would the move be?In a few weeks start researching the area,schools and find where you want to be.Then search right move.If you have to move be in control of it but get you and your baby settled first.
And congratulations.

Thanks
It's a good 2/3 hours away from where we are now, I know he would commute if he could but that's not an option at the moment

I’ve been in your position a fair few times! Keeping the family together brings the greatest stability to the children. It’s hard...I know but financial stability is the one thing that can’t be replaced or compromised on. Our last move (from a place I was very settled) was exceptionally hard on me but it had to be done. I’m a sahm too. Sorry to say it but it sounds like the best choice is indeed to move xx

I have moved around the country several times in the last 30 years due to husband’s relocations and promotions. It is difficult and daunting but my profession was easily transferable.
Take any help the company offers with the move. They not only assisted financially but gave support with schools too.

If it helps you’re in a good position to meet new people. Having a baby is a great way to meet new mums at groups. And if you’re going to need a new job at some point that’s another great way to meet people.