To be craving a family for dc

[Mummysharkdoodoodoo]

My mum died when I was 19 and my dad is disabled. I don’t have any other family. I have aunts who I haven’t seen in years. My partners mum is next to useless, she sees D.C. once every 2 months even though we live 10 mins away. We aren’t welcome at hers. Dd2 constantly asks where nanny is. She just isn’t bothered about them at all.
And that’s all we have. I want a mum. I want grandparents who are active in my children’s lives. I want someone I can talk to and phone up and speak too. I feel so alone in the world.

Ah I feel for you. My family are pretty awful too. I've made my own 'family' for me and dc with friends, people who I've kind of picked up along the way and who are more family to me than my blood family ever will be. That's what I recommend. Do you have friends?

No I don’t 😣 I have people I would speak to at a playgroup but not real friends.

Your dd is 2 right? Can you sign her up to a dance class, or tumble tots? Good place to meet people. Unfortunately, you can't change your family and if your dd nana isn't interested, it's unlikely to change. It's their loss!!

We go tumble tots actually but it seems to be grandmas! We tried ballet but she didn’t like that 😂 we go to a church group which is good, I’m going to keep going to that one.

Its possibly a while to wait yet, but the school gates is where I met all my current friendship group, so when dd1 was 4.

Thanks all xx

I agree with the poster who said you may make good friends at the school gates especially if your DD goes to the school nursery (if they have one).
I don’t have much family but I have dh, teen kids, some good friends, so it’s not too bad. I don’t have that extended family though and that upsets me too. I think if I did t have friends or dh I’d go bonkers!