To not want friend's partners over for drinks?

[OneTwistedAngel]

My friend and I just moved in to a new flat and I've invited a few people as has he.
It's a small flat so we agreed to max 3 people each.
Problem is two of my friends who I invited are wanting to bring their partners (1 husband and 1 boyfriend)
I politely explained it's not just my flat and we don't have the space so was hoping they would come alone.
My married friend was immediately like ok, I will say to DH. However, other friend is insisting that I ask my flatmate if it's ok.
Kind of annoyed me so I'm considering telling her if it's that much of a problem not to come... AIBU?

Cancel other friend & invite first friend's DH, sorted!

YANBU. She's been told you don't have space, etc. so she's been pretty rude to persist. I'm not sure I would even ask to bring my partner in the first place, unless we were friends with them as a couple and usually went to social events together. If it was just one of my personal friends inviting me to a small gathering at her flat, I'd think it would be a bit odd for DP to come (and I don't think he'd want to in the first place!)

Phew, thanks for the replies. I would never automatically assume a DP was invited to gatherings but was starting to wonder if there's a plus 1 expectation I wasn't aware of. I sent back a more direct message saying I'm sorry if it's an issue but I can't bring more guests as it's unfair on my flatmate. She has read it but not replied. I don't really know the boyfriend, have had a 2 min convo with him on one occasion!

I think it's ok to ask, but the minute you said no the first time, she should have accepted that and not pestered.

I think it’s a bit odd of you. It’s not just a girls night, or mates, it’s a proper social gathering with other people. Is your flat mate just inviting people singularly?

ThroughThickAndThin01
I really don't understand why its odd?
It kind of is just a girls night and my flatmate who is a gay man. He has also invited 3 individual female friends. It's a small two bed flat.

Then it is a girls night, so just tell your mates that.

Then you can invite them and their partners another night.

Did you do that very British thing of apologising and suggesting it might be possible and expecting her to take the hint; and instead she's agreed and asked you to check?

She's a CF otherwise.

I have a friend who does this but with her PARENTS and just turns up with them half the time! 🤷🏼‍♀️

AnchorDownDeepBreath
No i was very matter of fact I think. Initially I was like
'Aw sorry but it's not just my flat so we only have agreed to 3 guests each due to lack of space. Was hoping you could come alone?' Also listed who else would be there. 2 other people she knows.
Second message was:
'Sorry if it's an issue but if (DP) came aswell i would be taking the piss as (flatmate) and I agreed on 3 ppl each.'
I reckon I'm being clear but trying my best not to be rude x

Oopsusernamealreadytaken
You are joking! That's ridiculous! I can't believe she would think that's ok lol.
My friend used to be bad for bringing her dog everywhere and it was a nightmare on occasions when we were actually out and spent twice as long to find a dog friendly restaurant etc x