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To ask not to park outside our house

255 replies

aibuhun · 06/12/2018 17:12

We live on a tight street so if you get back late you will not be parking on that street or you will have to park right at the bottom and walk up (our street is long 5 min walk at least).
Sometimes OH pops to the shops in the evening and someone will take the spot right away so in the morning I have to carry two DCs bags coats right to the bottom. DD is 10 weeks old and DS has just turned two and he hates walking!

I'm getting fed up now and I never say anything as I know you can't fight over a spot but would I be unreasonable to ask them to not park there when I see them pulling up?

They are never neighbours either they are always people visiting Angry

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bobstersmum · 06/12/2018 20:34

I do understand your situation, but you must have realised when you moved there that this could be a problem. Same as people who live near schools moaning about parents parking, they knew the school was there when they moved.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 06/12/2018 20:40

Things do change though. When we moved here 11 years ago the parking situation was nowhere near as bad as it is now. Also most of the posts I see on here about school parking is because the parents are inconsiderate knobs when it comes to parking and there's no excuse for that.

PinkCalluna · 06/12/2018 21:07

The value of a house isn't dependent on whether it has a drive or garage FGS.

Well that depends where you are Winter

We used to live in a sought after street with very little parking and added a driveway to our house.

When we came to sell the house a few years later the fact that it had parking not only helped it sell within a fortnight but also added a significant premium to its value (in comparison to a slightly larger house without a drive that sold a month later).

Don’t be too quick to so rude to other people, especially when you don’t know what you are talking about.

MarilynSlumroe · 06/12/2018 21:16

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Unihorn · 06/12/2018 21:37

@MarilynSlumroe presumably the 10 week old hadn't mastered walking yet and it would be rather inconvenient to put a buggy up just to travel a minute from the car to the house.

MarilynSlumroe · 06/12/2018 21:43

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StateOfTheUterus · 07/12/2018 07:11

You're probably not reading this after the snippy comments but just in case you are, I do have another suggestion/thought (assuming the two children are a baby and toddler, rather than twin toddlers which is a whole different nightmare with or without shopping!)
Get a sling for the baby and an umbrella fold buggy for the toddler.

Block the road for a few seconds with your car outside your house while you chuck the shopping/uni stuff in the house. Ignore anyone being arsey. Find somewhere to park. Put toddler in umvrella fold buggy and baby in sling and walk to house You'd be able to stow the buggy somewhere in the house, surely?

If you have twin toddlers then that very very hard. I think I would get a really good large rucksack so I could have both hands free for the toddlers/push buggy. But no avoiding walking back and forth to the car though unfortunately.

Good luck with the moveSmile

Eilaianne · 07/12/2018 08:30

"blocking the road for a few seconds" (seconds? Really?) not only might be dangerous and illegal in an instance, in order to load/unload a car, it's also a stupid strategy in the longer term - plenty of other suggestions have been offered. Double parking to block the road is spectacularly idiotic, entitled and (on our road) not possible anyway because you'd be blocking a bus lane and a main route into town.

I can't believe some of the suggestions on MN sometimes.

mumofmunchkin · 07/12/2018 09:19

aibuhun is there any reason your oh can't take his car to pop to the shops in the evening, and re park in the carpark, rather than taking your car?

IamSusan · 07/12/2018 09:30

I think it's rude and inconsiderate

how is parking in a public space rude or inconsiderate? It's the same with people overlooking a public park complaining that children play in it or adults have a picnic. That's literally what's it is for.
What about people driving past your house? Are they rude and inconsiderate too?

You are free to move to a property on a private road and make the rules there, or maybe one with such a long drive you won't see the road. You sound very entitled and rude if you think you own a public spot.

Fairenuff · 07/12/2018 09:42

The obvious solution is for the dh to take his car from the nearby car park instead of hers.

As often turns out on mn, this is a dh problem, not a parking problem.

longwayoff · 07/12/2018 10:00

YABU my residents parking permit costs the same as anyone else's. So do my visitors permits. Cant park outside my house but anywhere in the zone is fair game. Goes with the territory. That's why your house costs less than those with parking on site.

RavenLG · 07/12/2018 10:11

I'm open to all ideas
Except that the public street isn't your personal parking domain and that walking from around the corner isn't the end of the world?

nutellalove · 07/12/2018 10:59

Understand the frustration. But as other posters say YABU. I have neighbors who 'reserve' the space outside their house by leaving their bins in the road though. Very irritating as we have very little parking. The worst part is they actually have a driveway, which they don't use. Hmm

LannieDuck · 07/12/2018 11:00

Surely DH should use his car when he pops out in the evening?

I'm guessing it's less convenient for him because he has to walk to the car park and back... but it saves you having to do the walk with bags + children in the morning.

Seems pretty simple to me.

blackteasplease · 07/12/2018 11:02

Totally a dh problem. Once your car is outside your house he leaves it alone. Full stop.

Takes his own car or walks. Or doesnt "pop" to the shops in the evening when you could probably do with his help anyway.

PumpkinKitty82 · 07/12/2018 11:08

YANBU but unfortunately there is sod all we can do about it .
It’s carnage for parking round here and people will park ANYWHERE and everywhere . I’ve had someone literally parked on my front garden before and also find people parked right in front of my garage often so I can’t get in or out of it

80sMum · 07/12/2018 11:08

OP, regretfully I have to concur with those who have already said YABU, as the road outside your house is a public road and anyone can legally park there.

I really feel for people who live in houses with no private parking space. I must admit, it would be a deal breaker for me: I would never buy a house with no parking.

Satsumaeater · 07/12/2018 11:20

Same as people who live near schools moaning about parents parking, they knew the school was there when they moved

Yes I did but I didn't know that parents could be such entitled CFs. And 15 years ago there were fewer Chelsea tractors clogging the place up too. However you are right and some of my neighbours are CFs for complaining, given we all have drives and driveways to park on - but sometimes parents do park in stupid places and also drive too fast down the road.

scoobydoobydoooooh · 07/12/2018 11:36

It's annoying but there's nothing you can do. We live near a bus stop and the same cars park outside our houses every day and get the bus into work. I do grit my teeth sometimes and silently curse them, but they're within their rights.

BlueEyedBengal · 07/12/2018 11:38

I live in a dead end street very narrow and hell to park. If a fire engine had to get up here they would have a very difficult job . Any way one of my neighbours is very territorial with the space outside her house.i if I move out of my space you can vertically see someone driving in in your mirror. She will knock on your door and demand you move. What I say is if you want a parking space then buy a house with a drive and that's my attitude to anyone parking outside my house I don't own the road out side it belongs to everyone and it's first come first served. The only thing I ask is don't take the piss and park your car then go off for 2 weeks on holiday because that is sure to get my back up!

Biancadelriosback · 07/12/2018 12:12

@winterfellwench
Insulting someone, and personally attacking them, after dishing out the details of the road you live in. Who DOES that? 

Sorry but this sounds like a threat?

You do sound like you have anger problems tbh. OP is unreasonable to think she can ask people not to park there, but no need for you to go on like that. Honestly, calm down.

werideatdawn · 07/12/2018 15:55

Get a life! If I noticed you giving me evils I'd park there just for fun Grin

figelnarage · 07/12/2018 17:44

I totally understand how frustrating it must be OP but don’t say anything as your request will likely be ignored and this will only make you feel worse. Good luck with the move in March :)

exaltedwombat · 07/12/2018 17:57

Putting comes out OUGHT to mean 'please may I reserve this space for the scaffolding lorry that's coming tomorrow?'

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