I feel very bad writing this but I really wish I could just cut off contact completely with my mother! I love her as she is my mother but I really, really dislike her as a person. I had a pretty awful childhood as she was a very poor mother. She has always had mental health problems that she refuses to get proper help for - she will take anti depressants for a while then come off them. I moved out at 16 but I tried to mantain a relationship to some degree until this year when I decided that, for my own sanity, contact had to be kept at a minimum.
Since I was little our house was very messy. Not completely disgusting but pretty bad. When myself and my DB were old enough we would clean. She would randomly go on a cleaning frenzy every so often but they were few and far between. It got worse when she decided to buy numerous large breed dogs (we had 5 at one point!). I kept on top of it as much as possible until I moved out. Since then, the house has went through various states of squalor. Myself and other family members have cleaned it for her and with her on numerous occasions. Each time, it is worse than before within a week. The treatment of the dogs has steadily declined over the years. I took one with me when I moved out and have helped with the others when I can but at the end of the day, I grew up and started my own life. She now has three left and they no longer get walked or groomed and they are left for long periods at a time. As a favour to her, both myself and DB checked in on them this week. The state of the place and the dogs is horrific. The dogs are matted and smell vile. The house is just completely disgusting, it is like something from one of those horror cleaning shows! 90% of the mess is nothing to do with the dogs, it is purely her filth.
I have called the SSPCA as I really don’t know what else to do. Talking to her, arguing with her, doing it for her has all been done many many times over the years and has not made a blind bit of difference. I fee bad for her as there is no way a mentally healthy person would choose to live like that but I feel absolutely heartbroken at the thought of the dogs living like that. I cannot take them as I just don’t have the space.
AIBU to have just completely had enough of her 😟? Wish I could just move to the other side of the world!