AIBU Thinking threesomes work

[Threeisacrowduntilnow]

So... I have two amazing friends. I met them both at the same time around 12 months ago. They were already friends and have probably known each other for about 3 years. We were out getting coffee with our toddlers and another mum joined us. At the end, one of my two friends said we had made her feel left out because we had been chatting to each other more. It suddenly reminded me that people often say threesomes don't work. This made me sad as I love these two women and would hate to see our friendship end. Maybe I'm intruding on their friendship?! Maybe our group is doomed?? Hoping I'm not being U to think we can make this work!

Well that post was boring! I was expecting something much more salicious
Disappointed now.

Don't look for problems that aren't there, OP! If it's working now, maybe it'll continue to work. I used to be part of a threesome, we've drifted apart now but it was great for many years.

Goddammit. I was also hoping for some insight into a threesome experience.

I’m part of a boring friendship threesome and we’ve never had any issues with one feeling left out. But then we are all respectful of each other and none of us are terribly precious so you wouldn’t catch any of us even pointing out we’d been ‘left out’ if two of us were speaking more or did something alone together.

Another one expecting something different from this thread.

Sorry Travis. Yes not a very sexy post!!

I have almost had an actual threesome, but chickened out last minute as it was with my then BF and another girl. I felt jealousy would get the better of me eventually!

And I was all ready to share my experience!

Um, but back to the question that was actually being asked - I think it's fine and do-able.

Refund please

Oops sorry! Ive clearly raised expectations accidentally

thedrinks happy to hear your experience anyway?!

Also expecting something else. Well played OP.

They can work. It depends on whether one person feels they have to monopolize or not. Equally, I've heard the idea of being wendied on here (new friend steals old friend). Sometimes that can be deliberate to push someone out a group (think mean girls), but equally sometimes you meet someone and you click really well and want to hang out as a 2 sometimes. It can be a bit playground to say it's not fair that 2 people have hung out together.

I think it’s odd that you’re friend mentioned feeling that way.
Problem is with threesomes is that generally 2 people get closer and one gets jealous!!!

Our twosome became a threesome 5 years ago. It's been 5 years of hell because the third person is manipulative & demanding.

I feel done with it. I'm taking a step back from it all.

I have two friends who I see individually but who know each other, but I know both of them better. I find if we ever go for a walk as a three, the other two end up walking together, and I’m left trailing behind, or if I go in front, I’m still on my own. Only happens with these two friends though.

NOT the post I was expecting either

Three can be a crowd OP. Depends on the dynamic and the individuals themselves I think. How independent/self confident and self sufficient they are...

I was let down too OP! Was gonna share my experience 🤣🤣🤣

Oh and they can work, as long as no one is precious and demanding. The other two see each way more then me, I can go months without seeing them. But I’m including in things, some I’m not if they’ve organised on a whim. But that doesn’t bother me. We’ve known each other since primary so over 30 years now (gulp I feel old!!!)

I made a brew and got some biscuits for what I thought this would be about.🤔😀

Threeisacrowduntilnow I enjoyed it at the time, and it was exciting and felt very rude; but ultimately wouldn't recommend it to anyone.

Clickbait at it's worst lol

ugh reminds me of school and the shitty shitty shittyness whnwhen I introduced my best friend to new fgirl in my set from maths...yeh went downhill from there and I became the one on the outside.
whether due to this experience or not I don't know now how I would ever not be thinking(being the over sensitive twit I am) she like her more,they like eachother more! :(

kateandme that's what it sent me back to. I suddenly remembered being a teenager and the ups and downs of friendship and that feeling of ending up left out.

My two friends have known each other longer and see each other more than I see them but we plan lots together and have a group chat etc. We're even all going on holiday together with kids and DHs. But I am the new one and I wondered if today when friend A said she was upset at feeling left out it's because maybe she sees me as an intruder. I wouldn't want to change their friendship at all, Id like us all to be friends, but worry that we may run into problems in the future.

Oh goodness another one ready to share (BFF and DH -then DBF) worked fine, she was " best man " at our wedding and everything.

Anyway back to the thread, yes sometimes threes don't work brilliantly, there usually are 2 that are closer- that's not always a problem and can change over time.

Maybe friend is kind of insecure for some reason, but I actually give her kudos for mentioning it, not just seething. No biggy - just make an effort to include her in the conversation equally. Once she realises you don't threaten the existing friendship, she might relax.

I was part of a strong threesome for years,it ended when the other two fell out over something major unfortunately but at the time we were totally all best friends