To stop the pill and just use condoms

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Been with my other half for about 10 years. We had a rocky patch last year but were closer than we've ever been.

Live him to bits there's just one issue. The lack of sex....it's all come out that it's health rated...heart. It's being treated and it's all good....however it's still affects our sex life.

At the moment I'm still in the pill but I thinking of stopping it.
He's not chasing the lack of sex issue up with the GP and I understand he maybe embarrassed but....

I'm thinking if he wants sex we can use condoms but I'm not taking a medication daily on the off chance he wants to get physical.

We've had sex less than ten times this past year...I think it's about 6/7.

We're both in our 40s with two teens 16 and 18.

AIBU to stop taking a daily medication when he wont even discuss the problem with a doctor or am I being childish?

I certainly wouldn;t be taking the pill into my 40s! It's bad for you. I stopped in my early 30s....we used condoms but now we use nothing as DH has been "done".

I don't think you are being unreasonable in the slightest! He might disagree but given your reasoning maybe that would give him the push to go to the doctor!

I don't need need much persuading to stop and this raises a good point. Thank you

How long have you been taking it? When I got to my forties, my GP said I would have to find an alternative method.

About 8 or 10 years Teebee. I had a coil for about 10 years before that then the pill before i had my kids

Definitely stop! I stopped taking the pill in my mid twenties when I finally admitted - after several different types - that hormonal contraceptives are really bad for my mental stability. Just condoms since then and no problems

Taking the pill until menopause isn’t bad for you- that’s such outdated advice! It doesn’t agree with everyone and if you want to stop taking it for whatever reason then of course you should but for a lot of women the tiny risks pale into insignificance compared to the benefits- lighter or no periods for many people, lower risk of certain cancers, replacement oestrogen for those that are menopausal (I take the combined pill for HRT reasons, I am 38 and have a lot of health issues so I am early menopause).

Sorry I know my reply is slightly off topic but it’s such an outdated view that the pill is some terrible thing health wise, the newer versions are much safer than they used to be.

I am in my mid 20s and decided to come off the pill about 6 months ago.

I told my DP my decision and he was happy to just use condoms. Your partner can't really comment because he's not the one putting hormones into his body every day and feeling the effects!

I feel like the pill doesn't help my hormone headaches which would be the only thing keeping me on it!

As an aside to the condom/pill question, I would push him to speak with his dr about his issues. Apart from the erectile dysfunctional issues , There is also a correlation between cardiac issues and low testosterone levels. This would explain the lack of desire on his part. He could get his levels checked with a simple blood test.

Thanks for the replys!

Iwouldliketoknow what causes low testosterone levels? I feel like he shuts me down in conversation when i raise the issue. Ive left it for a few weeks but by not saying anything Im feel crosser and crosser....whichever way I handle this...Im the bad guy.

Its a topic he most definately does not want to discuss ahhhhhh.

How to handle such a topic with a very manly macho man sensitively when he doesnt want to discuss?????

I have decided to stop the taking the pill in favour of condoms.