To wish MNers would do a vetted dating board

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IA probably being VU

But I wish MN had a dating site sometimes

I don't really know how it would work but I feel like after coming out of an abusive relationship and meeting a lovely man too soon and promptly screwing it up (no honestly he was lovely but I was traumatised and not in a place for any relationship so of course he being lovely figured that out and I believe is now happy in a new relationship)

I just sometimes wish I could meet decent men via mumsnet where you could have other posters matchmaking posters

It wouldn't work as though we have men I think they are mostly here via their spouses or kids but...

I'm the queen of threads that nobody bothers with 🙈 I guess it was a terrible idea

Like the one where you matched up your best friend? I think MN would certainly weed out a lot of red flag wavers, but if the LTB brigade joined in there would be a series of impossibly short relationships

Aw it’s not a bad idea at all but it just seems like the vast majority of posters are female!

(says the queen of overusing emoticons )

I'd it was up to a lot of MNers, no Man would be good enough and Family can just fuck right off.

I say that as someone who is happily single.

I used to think no man would be good enough but under old usernames where I got roasted for not LTB many times before I cottoned on that he was abusive, I think often written down its easier spotted than with all the other fluff floating around your head

I think MN would certainly weed out a lot of red flag wavers, but if the LTB brigade joined in there would be a series of impossibly short relationships

Well, yeah, what's wrong with short relationships? Better than wasting your best years on shitty men, right?

I judge my friends' boyfriends, and I judge them harshly.

Interestingly, the ones I like tend to hang around, while the ones I dislike tend to be broken up with sooner or later.

That has nothing to do with me telling my friends to break up; I usually keep my opinion to myself.

Since I am able to predict such things pretty accurately, I wonder whether I should say something more often. Might spare my friends the waste of time.

It's a lovely theory but in practice, here are some of the actual things I've seen on threads here
"I couldn't trust any man without children who deliberately looks to work or volunteer with children, like teachers or scout leaders"
"I could never go out with a man who has a dog, and I can't understand how anyone can"
"You have to wonder why any man has got to 30 and is single"

So while there are some amazing posters here, there are also some utter nutcases and I wouldn't trust the collective wisdom to chose me a car seat, let alone a husband

I know quite a few kind (geeky, not cool, slightly lacking in social skills) men who would love to meet someone but it’s never happened for them.
Two of them would like to be fathers but find it hard to meet someone.

I can sort of see why they’re still single if I’m honest. Although they’re great friends (work related so I appreciate their intellects and abilities) they are quite singular and focussed.

One of my friends I’ve known for almost 20 years.
I’m now a fortysomething with 4DC and he’s a 50 something with a succession of unrequited love affairs.

He is difficult, prickly and serious but kind respectful and not at all creepy ( he’s on good terms with all his exes that I know of and speaks about them fondly and quite wistfully)
I’d feel very odd about trying to set him up with someone though.

Based on the relationships board I think the world would be a lot happier place if fewer people were in relationships

On MN? That would be like going to an AA meeting to find a drinking buddy.