To ask if anyone has been rumbled on MN

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For instance, someone having an affair, has the wife caught on who the poster is? A Mumsnetter moaning about a friend - the friend responds?

I always wonder about this...following with interest

Im sure there was a thread not that long ago about someone moaning about their SIL and then said SIL started her own thread about the original thread

The name changing must have evolved from this happening.

Yes. An OW posted once on the relationships thread and I knew exactly who she was based on some of the details. She had basically lied about everything in her post and was it was driven by her intense jealousy because her DP’s ex (my friend) had found a richer, better looking, husband literally within months after the divorce. I told my friend and we had a laugh about it. Someone else must have recognised the woman too because her post vanished mysteriously.

What I don't get is , when someone starts a post by saying"I've name changed cos my DH/DP knows my previous name, or my SIL or friend is regular user of MN. Why are you telling people that you've name changed. If I was the DH and I was reading the said thread I'd say "hold on this sounds exactlylike the situation going on in my household" that must be my DW.

I worked out who someone was because she posted the same thing on Facebook. The username and other details match exactly. I’ve lurked but not told her.

I got recognised from a picture of my tattoos.

What I don't get is , when someone starts a post by saying"I've name changed

They might get found out from that post but it won't be linked to something they've wrote elsewhere, would be my guess.

What's the etiquette when you recognise someone? Do you pretend you didn't and carry on or do you pm them with a little suggestion that they NC for future posts?

I’ve recognised someone here because between all their posts they gave away so much personal information - including their name! Wasn’t anything that juicy to be fair, and I would never mention seeing them here.

There was quite a huge thread a while back, the OW had a child through their illicit affair and was (wrongly or rightly) angry about what they perceived to be the wife’s interference between her husband and the OP child’s future relationship. The wife came on near the end, apparently a friend had told them about the thread and basically told the OP she was a lying family wrecker. I’m 99% sure it was probably all bollocks, but on the off chance it was real, it shows ‘anonymous’ isn’t always so.

I've recognised a parent from the school I am at. Was without a doubt her after a quick search. Felt sad actually, as everything on the surface was far from the things she was writing (I didn't look at much as it felt weird though!)