DH weekend away

[mrsseashell]

My DH is going to Budapest to watch his football team play next week. He booked it with some of his friends that he hasn't seen for a while. As it's so close to Xmas they're keeping it cheap, and staying in a hostel as flights and football tickets weren't cheap. Me and 14mo DS couldn't go as it's weekday and I'll be at work.
I've just been told by DH that since reading the news about the murder of a traveller in Costa Rica who was staying in a sketchy air b n b he has upgraded his hostel to a fancy, expensive hotel room.

Aibu to think this is really unnecessary and quite selfish if DH? I'm now wondering if he is going to bother with the football at all or if he is just treating this as a fancy holiday for one for four days, whilst I'm at home working and looking after our son. If I sound jealous, it's because I am...

Very soft reason to move to a fancy hotel.......

Just make sure when you have your girly weekend away, you stay in the very best accommodation "for safety reasons"

That's part of the issue- I can't afford one!

Eh? There are millions of air bnb places in the world, used by millions of people each day and he's using the murder of one poor woman on another continent by (allegedly) someone working at that particular property as justification to change his accomodation to a much more expensive hotel?

It sounds like he is not of sound mind enough to be let out on his own, let alone be allowed to travel to another country. Is he quite mad?

Well you'd better make this his Christmas present for about the next 15 years then.

How is he comparing Budapest to Costa Rica? He's a full on twat.

i would also be annoyed at that, he is being very selfish!

How is it that he can afford a weekend away and you can't? If he's saved his fun money then that's fair enough. Do you share money fairly?

Why can he afford a trip but you can’t?

Yes we share money, and I can't afford a weekend away for the foreseeable future as it has gone towards this trip, Christmas, and we are getting married next year!

I'd be assuming he has had the fancy hotel booked all the time, and was never intending on going to a hostel

So unless you have already spent your fun money, the fact that he's spent more than is affordable on the flights, football tickets and now the fancy hotel, means that you don't share fun money fairly at all.

Are you sure you want to marry him? This action says a lot about how he views you and his relationship with you. I wouldn't marry a man who behaved like this. It's a symptom.

Budapest is dirt cheap even for nice digs, if he's spending big bucks he's being a selfish tossbag. Budapest is very different from Costa Rica, he's more likely to be targeted whilst out drinking anyway. I'd be irked too, tell him you want equal spent on you for a weekend away in the future.

I'm assuming that he won't also be expecting a foreign stag party next year?

So you’ve kindly donated your share of your money to your DP for a fancy holiday?

The hotel room is the least of the problems!

Have you actually asked your DP how much money you can expect in exchange for your weekend away? If not I think you should.

Dick move really. If it’s all joint money that’s being spent then his fancy hotel room can be his Christmas present.