To feel like a mug?

[Winterishere2018]

I always made an effort with Sil inregards to birthday presents and the same with dn for birthday and Christmas I choose and pay for them. Dh tells me basically Sil doesn’t like me anymore because she usually made an effort with our kids but last year she said she was too busy to attend ds1 (who is from a previously relationship) but would try to drop a present off, I replied to say it would be nice even if she just popped in for half an hour meaning not the full length. Sil took to this and repeating what dh said has given me a wide berth since. In the meantime beknown to me I’ve made an effort with birthdays and Christmas. I feel like a complete mug whilst dh knew now I’m going to have to go to in-laws for Christmas and pretend to be happy when in reality I’m dreading it. Aibu to feel like a mug as dh didn’t tell me at the time and all the while I been making an effort, dh suggested I apologised to Sil.

Well it doesn't sound like you did anything really wrong exactly, but I'm not sure I understand why you wouldn't just apologise. To my mind, if I've accidentally upset or offended someone then it seems like a natural thing to do. It sounds more like a misunderstanding than anything, and she hasn't done anything wrong either, so just straighten it out.

She’s clearly a drama queen

I would also find it annoying if someone pressed for me to pop in for just a half hour when I already said I might not make it.

However, her now saying that she doesn't like you is over the top. She is being a drama queen.

SIL did say that she would try to drop a present off, I would have said great, you don't have to stay if you are busy. What the bloody shell is wrong with her and your DH is an un-supportive stirring twat.

bloody hell not bloody shell