NC as don't want to worry people I know on here. I also posted a while back about my fears for upcoming wedding, anxiety, family pressure etc for context.
My wedding is at Xmas and we have just paid the 3rd and "final" deposit. Arrangement was that the very final amount due would be invoiced for after the wedding day (to include any additional guests above the original number quoted for, and any additions like extra drinks, and so on).
We are very fortunate indeed and have saved up over the last while to pay for the wedding, as well as small but generous family donations, so have already paid them almost 15K in deposits. We have just received an email fro the venue saying as we will owe them (for 7 extra guests, and drinks etc) they would like us to pay £3K now!
This wasn't what was arranged initially, although the fine print of their contract does says they reserve the right to change the payment plan arrangements at any time.
I think it's a bit crappy as it wasn't what was originally agreed and takes through, and so we didn't forecast to pay this now, even though they technically have the right to invoice us, and it puts us under pressure in terms of cash flow. We were planning on using next months early pay day and my Christmas bonus to support our payment, so that we have enough cash for things like musicians payments and gifts etc now.
Obviously I am horrified and I realise we bit off more than we can chew and have totally berated myself. I know we have too many guests, partly due to family pressure but obviously that is our responsibility. I also know that this is one day and it is not the be all and end all. If I could go back i would change it but I can't.
The question is how best to manage this now without losing the will to live / my mind. Any specific advice as far as the venue?