To ask you to talk me down?

[TheDeuteragonist]

We've been out for the day and staying over in London (me, DH and DD, was who is 3)

It's been a busy day and we all fell asleep about an hour ago.

I've just woken from possibly the most horrific dream I've ever had in which DD died. I am beside myself. It was so graphic and awful, and I just can't shake it off.

I don't want to wake DH up. My face hurts from clenching my teeth and I've just got this awful feeling all around me.

Please help calm me down?

wake DH he would want you to

And it's only 8pm. Give DD a cuddle too x

You need to watch a movie or something and try to forget. Wake up your husband and cry in his arms. These are the times you build your bonds.

It was just a dream. You need to distract yourself - dont analyse it. It just a representation of your fears

Can you download a game onto your phone?

You'll soon forget the dream but the unease will probably stick for a bit.

Can you put the TV on quietly? You need to surround yourself with real and normal things.

I second waking your DH - I'm sure he wouldn't want you to feel this upset with no support.

Distract yourself! Sometimes the feeling of a horrible dream stays for ages!!! Music/TV show you like/reading x

In the kindest possible way...

Get a grip it was just a dream

Just tried to wake DH. Starting crying when I told him I'd had a bad dream and he just grunted and rolled over. Tried at bit more and got a pat on the arm

Might head outside and get some fresh air and then come in and put the tv on low.

I suspect the dream is a result of having been on high alert all day as we have been in a busy, unfamiliar place. I just can't get over how graphic and detailed it was.

Thanks @Worieddd

I know it is. It sounds super pathetic.

I have quite bad dreams as it is and generally don't make a peep about them to anyone. But this is the first time I've ever dreamt about DD, and it was so graphic and disturbing it's really shaken me.

I hate dreams like that! I can never settle after them

Give your DD a hug, read some threads on here, have a hot shower later and be sure than the anxiety you're feeling now straight after will pass

@Worieddd

There was nothing kind about your post. And you know it.

It's just a dream OP. I know it's awful when you wake up from a nightmare and can remember every detail, they really seep into your brain. Have a shower and a glass of wine and take some deep breaths x

Dreams like that are terrible. I dreamt once that my nephew had been killed in a car accident. I woke with this crushing feeling that nothing would ever be fully ok again. It really shook me up.

Have a walk around, watch TV, play happy music...

I know it sounds strange but can you describe it. I always find when I've had a horrible dream and then tell my husband/Mum in detail I find it isn't logical and doesn't make much sense . But thinking about it does.
Iyswim

Go get your little one and have a cuddle!! Night mares like that are the worst!! Hope your okay!!
It'll play on your mind so put the tv on and try and take your mind off it xx

I've been for a walk, and come back and given DD a kiss.

It was such a bizarre dream at first. Mostly me arguing with everyone, particularly with DH, and then being at a party and feeling like everyone was laughing at me.

But then that happened. I can't even write it down because the details were so graphic and disturbing.

Going to watch some TV and browse a few threads and hope that makes it fade away.

Thanks for the replies everyone. It's a nice distraction.

Like I say, I normally have nightmares but they're normally just about me and can shake them off easier!

These hopefully very rare dreams are so shockingly vivid and realistic that, when awake, it can take you a fair while to convince yourself that it didn't happen. As others have said, distraction, company, the box, cake. Sympathy tho, been there.

Are you okay op?

In my country there's a saying that if you dream someone's death that means health for them! They say you dreamt they death dying. Apparently it's a really good thing!

I know, really unhelpful.