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Aibu sons Xmas present

17 replies

Spicylentil · 03/12/2018 19:16

Teenager is 16 asked him to make a list of things he would like, his favourite item was a designer belt with 140, I said it was his choice but that’s really all he would get plus stinking items. I budget about 170 per child she has found and being really pissy about it as is going to speak to teenager about returning it, he thinks it’s awful to spend that much on just a belt and is a dry that it didn’t discuss it with him! I always sort all the presents every Xmas with no help from him and if it what he really wants I don’t see the problemConfused

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Spicylentil · 03/12/2018 19:18

Sorry so many typos worth 140,,, stocking items,, dh has found out,,

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Unicornandbows · 03/12/2018 19:19

Can you write your post again didn't quite understand what you've written.

Knittedfairies · 03/12/2018 19:19

If that’s what your son wants for Christmas and he’s aware of the cost - so that he doesn’t get much else - I can’t see the problem. It is a lot of money for a belt though....

TheFishInThePot · 03/12/2018 19:21

I don't see the issue, I wouldn't spend that on a belt myself, but if that was my budget for someone and that's what they wanted then why not?
Your ds understands it's his only present.

Unicornandbows · 03/12/2018 19:21

Thanks for clarification. I don't think it's up to dh what your son chooses he has a set budget and kind of defeats the purpose of getting something you really want. Your dh is being unreasonable

lau888 · 03/12/2018 19:26

If that’s what your kid wants, and he understands how much it costs, you are not unreasonable to gift him the desired belt. It’s better to have one gift you really love than a pile of cheaper random items that you won’t use or appreciate. x

Yura · 03/12/2018 19:27

What kind of belt is it? if its a good quality leather belt he’ll have it for many, many years, so a great present

user1493413286 · 03/12/2018 19:33

If that’s what he wants and understands that’ll be his only present then that’s his choice. It is a lot on a belt but then I’d spend that much on a bag or shoes as a Christmas present (as in for DH to buy me) so it’s not that dissimilar to that. Also a belt like that will probably outlast a games console of the same price; my DH has designer belts he bought years ago that are still in good condition as they were made so we’ll

19lottie82 · 03/12/2018 19:34

What’s the problem, if it’s within your budget? Is a belt worse then, computer games, for example?

minisoksmakehardwork · 03/12/2018 19:39

While I might baulk at the idea of spending so much on a belt, if it is good quality, what he wants and he is aware that it is his main present, I'd go with it.

It is better to spend £140 on something he really wants than £20 each on 7 belts which are not to his taste or might not be as good a quality. Imo it's no different to spending that on a pair or shoes or a handbag.

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Spicylentil · 03/12/2018 19:42

Thank you for the replies I thought I was being reasonable Grin my dh can be so annoying at times. It’s a street wear thing so more fashion rather than long lasting leather, it has a good resale value once hes fed up of it.

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19lottie82 · 03/12/2018 22:08

Supreme, I’m guessing?

Singlenotsingle · 03/12/2018 22:10

It makes life easier for you if you only have to get one item, plus little bits and pieces.

Idontbelieveinthemoon · 03/12/2018 22:12

It's within budget, it's what he wants and it's not offensive so go with it. Your DH seems oddly bothered by what a 16 year old wants for Christmas - surely he knows now that 16 year olds don't always make the soundest fiscal choices and accepts that?

Also, since your DH is so concerned about Christmas suddenly, let him do all of the buying, wrapping, delivering and organising this year while you complain about his choices. The whole "I do everything then DH complains" thing is just awful. I do all the Christmas shopping and wrapping in our house and DH proudly exclaims "oh you'll have to thank Idontbelieve for that because she does it all" whenever anyone says how much they love a gift. Either smile and be grateful or do it yourself.

gamerchick · 03/12/2018 22:20

Op I hear you, I was exactly the same over the ugg things my daughter wants. That's all she's getting with a few smellys.

Id much rather get something they really want than a pile of tatt.

You do Christmas, let him twist.

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Spicylentil · 04/12/2018 14:09

Thank you all, you have made me feel so much better, 19lottie82- he loves supreme but it’s an off white belt. Dh seems to have chilled and hadn’t said anything to son about returning but not looking forward to Xmas morning because I know he will pass comment then and be negative about it Sad

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LanceStatersGold · 04/12/2018 14:39

It is always better, I think, to gift ‘less’ but it be worth more to the recipient, ie not value but in terms of actual want/need/pleasure/connection. Basically, get people what they actually want rather than a few ‘oh that’s nice’ gifts that aren’t treasured/appreciated/useful.

YANBU

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