Husband or me BU?

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Discussing baby names, and husband has suggested a name that will match her sisters. Sort of like Kelly and Kerry(just an example), so their initials match or swap their initials around.

I said I didn't like that idea much. He said if I didnt want similiar names for the first how about swap them around. So we would have Kelly Anne and Anna Kerry.

I asked why would he want such similar sounding names, and he replied with because then everyone would know they're sister's Pointing out that people would know they was sister's regardless of matching names, he responded that him and one of his siblings have matching names. (Think Chris and Cameron) I laughed and said it's not matching names they just begin with the same bloody letter! He asked why I didn't want matching names. I said how I don't really like matching names, how the 2nd baby name just sounds like we couldn't be arsed thinking of a name and just altered DD1s a bit and I wanted the girls to be individuals without people mixing them up especially with not a massive gap between them.

He said my response is quite snobby and for years people have had matching/similar names for siblings. And there is nothing wrong with the suggestions Kerry Anna/ Anna Kerry.

Who is BU?

Hmmm I'm definitely more on your side than his. There is nothing up with matching names but I wouldn't just switch their names around. There are loads of lovely names. Give your daughter their own identities.

Neither of you, you just have different tastes.

Nothing unreasonable about that....

He is being ridiculous. I have three daughters. They don't have matching names by any stretch of the imagination. They are people in their own right and don't need to match.

I admit that I have never really understood this apparent need to give matching names to siblings.

For years siblings have had matching names? Does he really think that’s a thing?
YANBU.

Was your husband dropped on his head as a child?

Matching names are daft. Who opens the parcel addressed to J Smith, John or his sister Joan?

[grin][grin]@Strongmummy

Honestly the whole swapping the names around would just be plain weird. It's like you literally couldn't think of any other names.

I almost understand his Kardashian complex of wanting siblings with the same letter but really I'm siding with you

I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. It's just differing tastes and I doubt matching names erodes individuality. My siblings and I all have the same first initial but have all managed to grow into independent individuals.

I’m with you, no one needs to ‘know’ that they’re siblings, it’s hardly essential and they both deserve their own names.

First of all, your husband has no idea what "matching" means. Second of all, if you don't like the name, you don't like it. Therefore it's off the table.

He's lost the plot thats a stupid idea. When I was a kid and siblings had matching names I thought it was the daftest thing ever. Same as when kids get lumbard with the parents name. I knew a brother and sister with the same names as the parents and thought the parents obviously had no imagination. Poor kids.

Don’t agree with matching names but certainly find it odd when siblings names don’t really go together eg Rebecca, Ruth and Sharon or Daniel, Michael and Elvis.
Or indeed, Charlie, Sophie and little Alfonso 😬

He wants one thing, you want another.

That doesn't make either of you unreasonable. It makes you adult humans.

Not fair on the children. Give them their own name because they are first and foremost their own person

Yanbu, imagine calling at them as they get older, there would be too much confusion lol

Definitely don't. Not least because credit reference agencies use software that finds imperfect matches (to get past typos, people sometimes using a middle name, etc). People with similar names in a family are constantly getting their credit scores mixed with family members.

I once knew a chap threaten to sue the credit reference agency, because his record was mixed up with someone else. It turned out to be his adult son (who was named after his father with the same first and middle name, was born in the same month, and lived at the same address). The son had terrible credit. I think half the records belonged to the son, and there was another one record in the mix who it turned out was a first cousin, lived two streets away (so same first 4 characters of post code) and had the same unusual first name and middle initial, though slightly different middle name - obviously a family naming tradition.

Siblings with matching names, or reversed names, are a prime example of people who will spend their lives patiently explaining to people that no, they don't already have an account at XYZ... and hopefully not getting pursued for a sibling's poor financial decisions!

I have my sister's middle name as my first name.

I hate it because I always felt I wasn't important enough to have my own name.

She hated it because she felt I had "stolen" her name.

He’s a bit daft isn’t he