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Friend always wants me to wait

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mummyhsb · 03/12/2018 16:13

I've got a friend and 3 of her kids attend the same school as my son. Every day I see her outside the gate at pick up and she always says 'if you wait for me, I'll walk up with you'. Usually I don't mind this as my son likes seeing her kids even tho he sees them all day at school (same class as 1 of them). But my kids are poorly today (age 2 and 1) and her daughter's class was coming out late so I just text and left. She expects me to wait every single day and it's freezing cold. She doesn't even live near me so we walk different directions and she barely speaks to me on the way home. Today she got shitty because I text and left but it would have taken me ages to find her in the school ground and tell her myself plus my son wanted to walk with other friends. I want to stop this whole 'waiting for her' everyday thing. But how do I say it nicely? Also AIBU?

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 03/12/2018 16:16

What does she want you to wait for if you live in different directions? Up to the school gates?

Yanbu to not want to wait around in the cold. Just tell her now it's winter that you'll be heading off as soon as your dc come out as you need to get home in the warm.

redexpat · 03/12/2018 16:17

No I cant today. Maybe another day. Byeee!

Aeroflotgirl · 03/12/2018 16:18

She sounds a bit controlling, yes start saying no, it is getting colder now and you don't want to hang about.

HollowTalk · 03/12/2018 16:19

It's the fact she barely speaks to you that would get me. I wouldn't wait for anyone like that! Just say, "Can't today" and get going.

Grannyannex · 03/12/2018 16:20

‘Sorry got to rush off’

mummyhsb · 03/12/2018 16:22

We have the chance to speak when you drop off to school so I don't get the need for me to hang around either. She's easily upset so I wasn't sure how to put it across to her. If I kept saying 'can't today' she's the type of person to come out with 'have you got a problem with me' etc. And that's what I want to avoid. Thanks for your replies

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WhoKnewBeefStew · 03/12/2018 16:24

As ppl have said... as you pass her and she says to wait, a cheery ‘sorry can’t today, byeee’ walk n wave.

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