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Feeling judged by my in laws

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spacefacexxx · 03/12/2018 14:07

I'm a first time mum to a lovely 6mo and, admittedly, I'm a massive safety freak. Like, I still don't feel comfortable in letting him sleep with anything in his cot, definitely not blankets (he has a sleepbag), I don't use cot bumpers, Im strict about how long he can have his bottle (max is an hour before it's discarded and I stick to it, I know others are more lenient). This isn't a judgement to those parents that do those things, everyone parents differently and he's my baby and this is how I choose to do things. I also tried baby led weaning but the gagging/choking was all too much for my anxiety. I want weaning to be enjoyable for him and I don't want him to pick up on my anxiety so traditional weaning is for us. However. I feel like my in laws just don't understand and they make me feel a bit stupid and pressured into doing things I don't want to do. Yesterday for instance they were trying to give him lumps of broccoli. They also put him down for a nap in the cot they have at theirs which is used for their granddaughter whose nearly 2 and therefore one of the cot sides isn't up... like, my 6 month old rolls and wiggles in bed and he could have easily fell out!! I was so uncomfortable and they made me feel bad for constantly checking on him. I don't mean to make them feel bad either but it's just really stressful to the point where I dread seeing them. I don't want to cause any problems but I feel like my wishes should be respected. Should I speak to them? Am I being unreasonable??

OP posts:
MsPavlichenko · 03/12/2018 22:41

Your DH is the issue. Bullying you into reducing your BF, you hiding it from him are indicators of abuse.

glueandstick · 03/12/2018 22:48

Just now and again I worry about my three year old and their duvet. Actually a tonne of stuff.

You’re doing nothing wrong :)

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