If your DC gets detentions at school do you punish them at home,

[ThatOneHurt]

Before my Y7 DC started secondary school I always figured that detention was punishment enough and I wouldn't need to intervene at home.

But I'm beginning to rethink this.

He's having a detention about once a fortnight for being disruptive, today I get an email because 'he kept getting out of his chair'.

He gets way, way more positive messages, commendations etc, they are on a daily basis.
He describes detention as 'fun' and 'a laugh'.

I don't like the idea of him thinking he can disrupt a lesson or keep getting out of his chair and get away with an extra 10 mins after school.

Should I be punishing him at home (confiscate his phone for a certain amount of time for example) or not?

Never had a child this age before so I'm still very much winging it.

I think you should find out what's happening. It sounds like my behaviour at school. I was socially excluded, but found friends when I started being disruptive. I recognise now that my depression started soon after I started secondary school, and I had two (incredibly inept but intended) suicide attempts. I could have contributed so much more had someone recognised my unhappiness.