To find DH's procrastination infuriating

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I could cry, he's so frustrating. He works so hard but he also leaves important things to the last possible minute. He's done this his whole life.

For example, he's not got another job to go to when his contract finishes soon because he hasn't bothered to apply for anything. He says he's too busy with work, and wants to spend his free time depressurising with us.

I've tried a softly-softly approach, I've tried delivering home truths, nothing works and talking about it end up making him even more stressed. I guess a period of unemployment might be effective in curing his procrastination. But it's not fair to me, that I will be the sole breadwinner for an indefinite period, and it's not fair to DS who will have to leave his nursery after he has only just settled in.

He is otherwise a wonderful husband and father. We are the top of his priorities. But I feel that sometimes he should prioritise other things (like avoiding unemployment) as it's going to impact us all.

Your poor son has to leave nursery because his dad can't be arsed to get a job??? You are both NOT top of his priorities. I suggest you tell him DS is not leaving nursery and he'll have to find a way to pay for it end of. You're being a doormat. Also any bloke that said to me that he needs to "depressurrise" would not be the one for me anyway. He sounds like a loser.

If you are top of his priorities why are you under this pressure and stress? I would say from reading this that his priority seems to be him and him alone. Your poor ds having to change nursery.

We're top of his priorities in that he does more than his share of looking after DS (even though it's no necessary), to the detriment of his job sometimes.

Basically the nursery is attached to the job, DS has to leave because DH isn't staying with his organisation. I would accept it if couldn't get another job there but he hasn't even tried.

He basically thinks very very short term - like this week, not much further.

The nursery is not a financial issue, sorry, should have been clearer. We can afford to send him to another one but I am dreading putting DS through another settling in period. DH will probably be a SAHD until he gets another job.